Tinder date unmatched/deleted me after going on a date?

[greenlights0000]

It went good, we made plans to meet up this weekend. I noticed he deleted my messages on tinder today. I mean, is that a bad sign? We have each other’s numbers anyway. I know we’re not talking on the app anymore, but do I get the feeling it’s a bad sign he’s not interested anymore?

[crispytoast]

He either deleted his Tinder which is likely a good sign or he deleted you from his Tinder which is likely a bad sign. You have his number though, maintain some playful contact and he will either be receptive or not, you'll have your answer pretty quickly.

 

If you don't mind me asking, what about it went well?

[Flame Aura]

When I used Tinder and moved the conversation over to Whatsapp etc I would always delete the Tinder convo, why keep it there?

[alphamale]

When I used Tinder and moved the conversation over to Whatsapp etc I would always delete the Tinder convo, why keep it there?

 

for posterity?

[greenlights0000]

I just texted him to ask how his day is going and he replied. I guess I’m making a big deal out of it.

[crispytoast]

It's ok we've all done it in some way or another

[SpinScratch]

I notice some women have done this to me even though we continue to see each other. I just assume it's because they don't want me to see that they are active on there, and keeping their options open... you know, new pics, bio changes.

[frus69]

OP you are really uptight. First guy you worry he ghosted this guy you worry hes not interested. You need to relax or tinder is going to be a nightmare for you

[malaiyas]

Don't read too much into it, especially since he answered you.

 

I've read that a lot of people unmatch after meeting so that they're not obsessing over or bothered by profile updates and the like.

[TheFinalWord]

I always am leery when someone moves it to WhatsApp then deletes me. Normally, those are the scammers trying to move you off Tinder.

 

 

OP, some people do delete people they're dating because Tinder and Bumble track your location and it's kind of creepy to be honest. I use a fake IP router to keep my location anonymous.

 

 

 

But normally, I wouldn't delete someone I'm talking to. I would de-activate my profile if I were dating someone exclusively. But I would also tell them so they don't read into it.

[basil67]

Is this the ex's mate - or someone else?

[emeraldgreen]

Next time you want to keep a conversation going, don't ask something banal like "how's your day?". Send them a photo of something you saw with "this reminded me of that [thing we saw on our date]" or something else that conjures an emotion rather than just one more boring message they have to reply.

[crispytoast]

Is this the ex's mate - or someone else?

I am also wondering this

[Highndry]

LMAO. It's Tinder - a hookup site. Are you sure you're not looking for more than a lay?

[d0nnivain]

I just texted him to ask how his day is going and he replied. I guess I’m making a big deal out of it.

 

 

Glad you reached out. Hope this calmed your fears. Be chill. Freak out here if you need an outlet but present as calm & collected around him.

[rightondude]

I think some people delete their Tinder like this so you can't see how close or far away they are from you.

[Fekenaws]

I keep all my tinder convos unless I delete my account (which has no real purpose anymore because it doesn't reset your ELO) or if the date didn't go well. The last time a girl deleted my chat we went on a date and we both clearly didn't feel it. Our senses of humor didn't mesh, our social/political views were different, and we both weren't over our exes. We thanked each other for the "fun" time and then that was it, next

[Iris The Butterfly]

LMAO. It's Tinder - a hookup site. Are you sure you're not looking for more than a lay?

 

I have to laugh too- how can you take dating seriously if you’re using Tinder??

I hear once in awhile those stories about at the wedding, “we met on tinder!” And I roll my eyes. It’s a hookup site. You can’t take anything or anyone seriously on there.

 

For all you know it’s a married man, doesn’t live in the area, etc. and that’s why they delete the conversation. When someone deleted me online after a date that meant I wasn’t going to be seeing them again. Only once with my now boyfriend he delete his account and told me he had. When I saw our conversation after a couple dates I saw he was a deleted user. He told me he had done it too. Every other time has been because the person wasn’t interested and didn’t want to be located.

Edited June 4, 2019 by littlebridge

[guest569]

I have to laugh too- how can you take dating seriously if you’re using Tinder??

I hear once in awhile those stories about at the wedding, “we met on tinder!” And I roll my eyes. It’s a hookup site. You can’t take anything or anyone seriously on there.

 

Is that what you use tinder for? I've had my last 2 relationships start there. And have scored plenty of dates, 0 of which were hookups. It's whatever the users want it to be.

[rightondude]

yeah it's a meeting avenue, what you do after meeting is independent of the app itself...

 

now generally speaking, yeah you have a better chance of hooking up after meeting, but not always. Hell half the women on there start off by saying "NOT HERE FOR A HOOKUP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111"

[Iris The Butterfly]

Is that what you use tinder for? I've had my last 2 relationships start there. And have scored plenty of dates, 0 of which were hookups. It's whatever the users want it to be.

 

Maybe so. In my experience the vast majority of men I ever talked to on Tinder in particular were not interested in anything more than a hookup. I'm sure there are exceptions, I just found that if you're not looking for a hookup, don't put yourself in a pool of people who are. As a woman, even though I was very clear I was looking for something serious, I still had lots of guys try to date me anyway without the same intention. It's better to remove yourself from the 'crowd' that isn't on the same page. All I'm saying is take someone deleting you off Tinder/Bumble any online dating sites with a grain of salt, it's all superficial at best.

[guest569]

Correction. My 3 relationships started online as well as a casual relationship (an intentional one). Hmm I have never had any issues being tricked by a guy who only wants a hookup. There are plenty who try. But I'm not interested so.

 

I don't think it matters how they met. The thing about those early dates is that you're still getting to know each other, so there's going to be a bit of anxiety about where things are headed, and the "what is this?" stage. Hence reading into little things. We can't really tell if he deleted the conversation, which I think is the same as unmatching, or if he deleted his account, can we? It might be shady, maybe its a positive, or maybe its neutral. Hard to know. You've just got to try to put your mind to rest and keep getting to know the person and see what happens.