Versacehottie Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 How the F does one lose an Uber job? Yeah i think she is taking you for a ride...not an uber one--the other kind.
JuneL Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 How the F does one lose an Uber job? Yeah i think she is taking you for a ride...not an uber one--the other kind. Maybe her Uber reviews were not high enough?
Author dinzsant Posted June 6, 2019 Author Posted June 6, 2019 How the F does one lose an Uber job? Yeah i think she is taking you for a ride...not an uber one--the other kind. haha apparently she was driving a scooter....but she didn't have the correct license. who knows what's really going on here, but I am getting sick of it. I see a lot of talk but no action.... so I am initiating NO texts now....and she can bring up the idea of meeting together. seems she could be just using me as a text friend and free English practice.
Versacehottie Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 Maybe her Uber reviews were not high enough? Haha I literally have no idea. While I've personally had some great Uber drivers and a few very sketchy ones too, they've been under fire since they started for lack of background checks and having very sketch drivers (who are otherwise unemployable) so losing an uber job is low marks for sure. *no offense to any uber drivers reading this. As i've said i've also had great ones who were doing it as a second job or as a primary job and no where near sketchy. The point is that they are known (and much controversy about) the fact that they take ANYONE. So maybe she is unreliable and flakey all the way around, not just to the OP. (or wrecked her car or something).
LivingWaterPlease Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 (edited) I posted without reading all of your posts, OP. Now that I've read more will just say it seems to me she's a big flakey. Edited June 6, 2019 by LivingWaterPlease
Author dinzsant Posted June 6, 2019 Author Posted June 6, 2019 Haha I literally have no idea. While I've personally had some great Uber drivers and a few very sketchy ones too, they've been under fire since they started for lack of background checks and having very sketch drivers (who are otherwise unemployable) so losing an uber job is low marks for sure. *no offense to any uber drivers reading this. As i've said i've also had great ones who were doing it as a second job or as a primary job and no where near sketchy. The point is that they are known (and much controversy about) the fact that they take ANYONE. So maybe she is unreliable and flakey all the way around, not just to the OP. (or wrecked her car or something). sorry guys. i should have specified that she works for UBER EATS. The food deliveries. Anyway, she is back to the same old thing. Blabbing on the text about meaningless stuff. I don't think she misses me, she misses her free English practice. I'm thinking just to be upfront with her about it (in a relaxed way) - You say you miss me but you never respond to my asking you to meet. I'm actually an English teacher (and she knows that), so I am concerned that she is using me purely to practice her English skills.
Versacehottie Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 Oh well that makes somewhat more sense that she got let go. Though it's still a sign that she has overall flakiness. It's a contract job right? Independent contractor so there is no reason to get rid of those employees unless they really f*ck up or don't follow the very flexible guidelines they are given. Ok well not to get too off track. I think she has a somewhat user element going on. The constant blabbing on text without ever meeting up doesn't work for you without having to decode exactly what it means. Try responding infrequently or not at all for a few days and see what happens. My guess is that people who are opportunistic do what it takes to get back into your good graces and then start using again though. It's somewhat human nature. It doesn't mean you need to put up with it. Move onto someone where your goals to date each other are aligned. Good luck!
surferchic Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 From a woman's perspective most women believe that the fastest way to catch a guy is to make him chase you. So your philosophy that a woman will hunt a man she is interested in seems contrary to conventional wisdom to me. For heaven's sake she texted you 7 times while you were playing games giving her the silent treatment. She chased after you to ask for your phone #. What exactly does it take for you to get it that she is interested? Totally agree with this... goodness! OP-Why on earth would you expect a woman to chase you ...as a man? Who told you this stuff? Seriously?
Grey40 Posted June 6, 2019 Posted June 6, 2019 (edited) I'm thinking just to be upfront with her about it (in a relaxed way) - You say you miss me but you never respond to my asking you to meet. I'm actually an English teacher (and she knows that), so I am concerned that she is using me purely to practice her English skills. Don’t do that. There’s no need and you won’t get an honest answer anyway if anything it’ll make things worse because once again, it’s showing you care too much. You made that mistake early and she’s knows you like her. You have to put some doubt in her mind that you’re may be fading. . If the small talk is becoming too much and often take much longer to respond. When she talks about her job and complains and stuff, wait some hours before getting back. When she says you forget her just ignore it. Put 0% effort in at this point. See I told you she’s already wondering why you’re “forgetting her” so it’s working. Don’t cave in, she wants to keep you in that friend zone, don’t alow that. keep it up until she breaks and ask you to hang out. She will if she’s interested. Edited June 6, 2019 by Grey40
Author dinzsant Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Don’t do that. There’s no need and you won’t get an honest answer anyway if anything it’ll make things worse because once again, it’s showing you care too much. You made that mistake early and she’s knows you like her. You have to put some doubt in her mind that you’re may be fading. . If the small talk is becoming too much and often take much longer to respond. When she talks about her job and complains and stuff, wait some hours before getting back. When she says you forget her just ignore it. Put 0% effort in at this point. See I told you she’s already wondering why you’re “forgetting her” so it’s working. Don’t cave in, she wants to keep you in that friend zone, don’t alow that. keep it up until she breaks and ask you to hang out. She will if she’s interested. cheers man.! So last night she started texting again. I waited a while to respond. I didn't want to text all night - i basically said "when are you free to meet for a drink" she replied "After dinner tomorrow night i think" "i think".... hmmmmm anyway, woke up, and as usual she has left another text message for me...saying good morning, how are you etc. and then after I reply that i have to teach today a class (which she already knows), she responds "we could meet before class"..... i didn't respond to this....seems like some preemptive way to get out of having a REAL date with me at night... what do you think?! 1
Grey40 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 cheers man.! So last night she started texting again. I waited a while to respond. I didn't want to text all night - i basically said "when are you free to meet for a drink" she replied "After dinner tomorrow night i think" "i think".... hmmmmm anyway, woke up, and as usual she has left another text message for me...saying good morning, how are you etc. and then after I reply that i have to teach today a class (which she already knows), she responds "we could meet before class"..... i didn't respond to this....seems like some preemptive way to get out of having a REAL date with me at night... what do you think?! Well you did the exact opposite of what I said to do. You asked her out again. I said specifically to wait at least 2 weeks before bringing it up again. You may have blown this chance now. Also you don't ask the girl when she's free. You tell her an exact day, time and place to meet so she has to commit. If you make it easy for her to get out of it, she will. You're exactly right, she's trying to keep you in friendzone so she can continually use you for attention as the "nice guy friend" who she can talk to, complain and vent her problems to. The ONLY chance you have to break out of that is to really cut back your talking and responding, and DONT ASK HER OUT AGAIN. If she doesn't bring up getting together, then so be it. Also, never agree to meet up with her unless it's a "date setting" (night time for drinks or dinner or an activity). No lunches, no meeting before class, no "friend" type of stuff. 1
Author dinzsant Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Well you did the exact opposite of what I said to do. You asked her out again. I said specifically to wait at least 2 weeks before bringing it up again. You may have blown this chance now. Also you don't ask the girl when she's free. You tell her an exact day, time and place to meet so she has to commit. If you make it easy for her to get out of it, she will. yes...but when she started talking she said "I missing seeing you" among all the usual small talk. So that's what prompted my "free for a drink" comment. I should have said a specific date, my bad. anyhow no surprise, she texted me tonight saying "Oh gosh I have lost my ID, passport, documents, etc etc." I didn't even bother to respond. seems like a ploy to get out of tonight's "I think" date. I might just ct my losses and run now. And i certainly didn't meet for her "before class date"
Author dinzsant Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Well you did the exact opposite of what I said to do. You asked her out again. I said specifically to wait at least 2 weeks before bringing it up again. You may have blown this chance now. Also you don't ask the girl when she's free. You tell her an exact day, time and place to meet so she has to commit. If you make it easy for her to get out of it, she will. yes...but when she started talking she said "I missing seeing you" among all the usual small talk. So that's what prompted my "free for a drink" comment. I should have said a specific date, my bad. anyhow no surprise, she texted me tonight saying "Oh gosh I have lost my ID, passport, documents, etc etc." I didn't even bother to respond. seems like a ploy to get out of tonight's "I think" date. I might just ct my losses and run now. And i certainly didn't meet for her "before class date" UPDATE- surprise, surprise. She sent me the following: "Sorry baby can't meet tonight. we make dinner, and I have no ID, passports and docment to go out" so i think it's pretty clear what's she up to now...LOL after all the "I miss you every day", and "i love your heart" and "you are the best"......hahahaha amazing the nonsense these girls come up with lol
Flame Aura Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 UPDATE- surprise, surprise. She sent me the following: "Sorry baby can't meet tonight. we make dinner, and I have no ID, passports and docment to go out" so i think it's pretty clear what's she up to now...LOL after all the "I miss you every day", and "i love your heart" and "you are the best"......hahahaha amazing the nonsense these girls come up with lol Stop contacting her or even replying to her. She is just wasting your time. 2
Author dinzsant Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 Stop contacting her or even replying to her. She is just wasting your time. True that. My last reply was "...sorry for the delay, just out with a friend in the city...I hope you find it".... 1 hr later "she replied "Oh i just found my stuff"... I'll leave it at that now. I am sure she will keep texting me 100 messages now, e.g. "what's wrong", "you forget me?" etc etc..... but I won't answer one.
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 I am sure she will keep texting me 100 messages now, e.g. "what's wrong", "you forget me?" etc etc..... but I won't answer one. That's just mean & game playing. Be the better person. Send her 1 final text saying that this isn't working for you & you'd rather not hear from her again. Then you can block her. Why subject yourself to the barrage of texts?
Author dinzsant Posted June 7, 2019 Author Posted June 7, 2019 That's just mean & game playing. Be the better person. Send her 1 final text saying that this isn't working for you & you'd rather not hear from her again. Then you can block her. Why subject yourself to the barrage of texts? i just don't understand the full rationale... it's actually cruel, since she is aware that I like her. she is clearly, in one respect, gloating in the power she can have over a man. she's clearly not interested, so what does she do.....? she keeps saying "I miss and think of you every day"...."I love being with you"...."I love spending time with you"....etc etc Yeah, maybe I should respond...wrap it up in some way. The sad thing is I really thought she was genuine and a good person.
d0nnivain Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 I'm sorry that you misjudged her. At least you found out sooner rather than later. If you cleanly & definitively break things off with her then you can move on to a happier, healthier place with a new person who is better for you.
Grey40 Posted June 7, 2019 Posted June 7, 2019 (edited) i just don't understand the full rationale... it's actually cruel, since she is aware that I like her. she is clearly, in one respect, gloating in the power she can have over a man. she's clearly not interested, so what does she do.....? she keeps saying "I miss and think of you every day"...."I love being with you"...."I love spending time with you"....etc etc Yeah, maybe I should respond...wrap it up in some way. You don't need to understand it, for whatever reason she's not interested in you romantically but just likes someone to talk to. Don't try to figure out why you'll never know. And yeah, you should wrap it up. She seems like the type that won't accept "no" for an answer, you may just have to ghost her or block her honestly. You learn from this experience, I definitely think you messed up in the beginning by doing a little too much overpursuing and telling her you really liked her too early. Edited June 7, 2019 by Grey40 1
Author dinzsant Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 You don't need to understand it, for whatever reason she's not interested in you romantically but just likes someone to talk to. Don't try to figure out why you'll never know. And yeah, you should wrap it up. She seems like the type that won't accept "no" for an answer, you may just have to ghost her or block her honestly. You learn from this experience, I definitely think you messed up in the beginning by doing a little too much overpursuing and telling her you really liked her too early. she wrote to me after 12 hours "hey how are you? (she was probably bored and had no one else to text.) i didn't respond. i feel a bit rude...but I am not interested in this friend chatty text business. I know what you mean...but if a girl really likes you (say 90% or more), in my experience, you don't have to overpursue...you don't have to tell her you like her. If the girl is maybe 65-70 percent or so into you...then you have to. Isn't it better to be with, and spend effort on, the ones who like you 90% +?- the ones who make it easy for you?
Author dinzsant Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 You don't need to understand it, for whatever reason she's not interested in you romantically but just likes someone to talk to. Don't try to figure out why you'll never know. And yeah, you should wrap it up. She seems like the type that won't accept "no" for an answer, you may just have to ghost her or block her honestly. You learn from this experience, I definitely think you messed up in the beginning by doing a little too much overpursuing and telling her you really liked her too early. Update: as i said she texted me saying "hi, How are you" i was going to ignore it. but my friend told me to reply briefly...otherwise I would look like a 5 year old child who didn't get a lolly. I responded "I'm doing great. very productive day". didn't ask her anything. 5 mins later she responded by telling me "I am at the club now where we went together" now has just asked me to come to the club. I very well might do it...because I have another girl in who wants to meet me tonight...so I might introduce her to the colombian flaker LOL
ExpatInItaly Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 now has just asked me to come to the club. I very well might do it...because I have another girl in who wants to meet me tonight...so I might introduce her to the colombian flaker LOL Only do that if you don't like either woman and want to kill your chances with both. But really, why even bother engaging with this woman at this point? What is your objective here?
d0nnivain Posted June 8, 2019 Posted June 8, 2019 She didn't ask you to come to the club. She told you she was there. If you have another date have enough respect for that woman to not drag her into whatever game you are playing with this Uber eats chick. Do understand that YOU are causing an equal amount of this drama. I think you enjoy the game. 1
Author dinzsant Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 She didn't ask you to come to the club. She told you she was there. If you have another date have enough respect for that woman to not drag her into whatever game you are playing with this Uber eats chick. Do understand that YOU are causing an equal amount of this drama. I think you enjoy the game. no, she said... "coming" ....and then "do you want come"? and i am already out with another girl who wants to go- we are in brisbane which has only one party main party area at night. what's the deal here? she didn't want to meet me, so i can go out whenever I want with whoever i want. i don't care if i see her or not and i'm not going out there with the purpose of seeing her. introducing the two was a joke. but if i see her I will say "hi" and go about my business. I am not the one in the wrong here
Author dinzsant Posted June 8, 2019 Author Posted June 8, 2019 Only do that if you don't like either woman and want to kill your chances with both. But really, why even bother engaging with this woman at this point? What is your objective here? I'm not going to engage with her. If I see her I will say "hello" and that's it. as far as I am concerned, there is nothing and will be nothing will the Colombian. last night, it was all finished in my mind. but at the same time I don't want to behave like a child or create enemies. so if i see her I will just say 'hi' and move on.
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