Was he blowing me off tonight?

[greenlights0000]

I had a date tonight or first meeting, yesterday it was confirm that we would be meeting tonight however he texted me today, I responded if we are still meeting up and he said that he couldn’t. He then asked if he could reschedule for Monday, I told him no, I’m busy. Then asked if weekdays would work, he then said that his “transmission” for his car was something he was dealing with now. I’m like wtf? He’s blowing me off. I’ve heard all the excuses in the book and I’m sure if I were to make plans with him again, he will blow me off, the whole “rescheduling” is just a lie to make the blower off look good.

[stillafool]

How many times has he cancelled on you?

[The Outlaw]

You may just want to forget this guy and find someone who won't cancel at the last second. People will make time for you unless it absolutely can't be avoided.

[greenlights0000]

Once. Then again I met him online. A flake?

[greenlights0000]

Not cool. First date and I get a “car trouble excuse” what a crock.

[rightondude]

no Uber where you live?

[d0nnivain]

Maybe his transmission really is broken & with the repair bill, he might now have the money.

 

If you don't believe him move on.

[Lotsgoingon]

He's giving you specific substitute dates ... To me, that's the sign that the person may really have a problem.

 

When people are disinterested, they don't tend to offer specific later dates (and very soon) when they're available.

 

Any chance he has an old car? ... he's probably a little embarrassed that his car is acting up and he may be struggling to get the money together to fix it. He doesn't want to discuss all of that with you.

 

No, he's specific for meeting up later. That's not a blowoff.

 

A blowoff is ... "maybe next weekend ..."

[greenlights0000]

I was just thinking “take an Uber.” Our plan was to meet in a shopping /dining district like 10 minutes from where he lives. Surely car trouble isn’t going to take up the whole entire night. Also, he’s a lawyer, so he has money and has most likely used uber.

 

Did I mention he’s a lawyer? He probably has money and I doubt he’s driving some beat up 1980 ford pinto. He probably drives a 2018Mercedes-Benz

Edited June 1, 2019 by greenlights0000

[Scarlett.O'hara]

Issue with his car excuse = I'm not that keen on meeting you / I've made plans with another woman who is a sure thing. Can I downgrade you to a weeknight date instead?

 

He didn't put a lot of effort into his excuse, considering how easily he still could have met you.

[d0nnivain]

Not ever lawyer is super rich.

 

But since you believe he has money & your gut is telling you this business about the transmission was BS, just move on.

[frus69]

Well just tell him " ok then you can reshcedual if you want. good luck with your car." Leave the ball at his court then go on with your life.

No need to get so uptight geez. You never even met him. Maybe he really has some car problem you know. And he will think you are a crazy angry chick.

And worse case if he really flakes you, so what. Again You never even met him

[Simple Logic]

If his car has transmission problems on a Friday or Saturday, he is not able to get the car fixed in by the end of the next week. If he offered dates that soon, he is lying about his car.

 

Besides, a text is tacky. If you have to stand a lady up at least be a man and call her.

Edited June 2, 2019 by Simple Logic

[Scarlett.O'hara]

Besides, a text is tacky. If you have to stand a lady up at least be a man and call her.

 

You're right, sadly he didn't even have the manners to tell her. She actually had to ask him if they were still meeting. That's when he came up with all the excuses and asked if they could meet on a weekday instead.

 

I doubt he is single.

[Iris The Butterfly]

Online dating sucks. This happens all the time with online. If you had met in real life this wouldn't even be an issue. I'm sorry. Yes, he was blowing you off.

Note you had to reach out and ask him if the plans were still on. AND he already canceled once before?? That shows he wasn't eager to commit to it... and really, how could you if you've never even met the person?? Sadly he had to use a lame excuse about his car. If he really wanted to meet you he would call, or at the very least, take a damn Lyft. Nobody works on cars on a Saturday night, not even mechanics. It's the equivalent of 'sorry, I got tied up with work, or I have to stay home and wash my hair, or I'm sick' excuse.

 

Next.

[smackie9]

Like I always say, have your dance card full, and keep you options open. Surely there's someone else you can say yes to for a last minute date.

[Gretchen12]

When he texted you, why did you ask him if the date is still on, when it was already confirmed the day before?