Els Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 please make sure your nails are done!! Maybe it's just me but that's the first thing I look at when I meet a girl Ummm, you are literally the only guy I know who does this... No offense at all, I think it's pretty cool, but this isn't true for most men I know, lol. 2
JuneL Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 Ummm, you are literally the only guy I know who does this... No offense at all, I think it's pretty cool, but this isn't true for most men I know, lol. I think this may be one of those subtle things that even the guys themselves don’t realize they look at
Els Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 I think this may be one of those subtle things that even the guys themselves don’t realize they look at Sure, but IME if you ask a guy who had a 5-minute conversation with a girl: "So, what color were her nails?", I'm willing to bet that 95% of the time your answer would be "....Nails?".
JuneL Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 Sure, but IME if you ask a guy who had a 5-minute conversation with a girl: "So, what color were her nails?", I'm willing to bet that 95% of the time your answer would be "....Nails?". But the same could be true of her outfits or accessories! 1
Els Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 But the same could be true of her outfits or accessories! Yes, that means the outfit or accessory was not the "first thing they looked at".
Versacehottie Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 Three things off the top of my head: *Dress for where you are going to be. It shows that you "get it" basically. You could push the limits of that toward sexier, prettier but as you said that's not really how you roll. *Show your shape. Even a tomboy can do that. Fitted clothing. Even if something is more full or not a traditional sexy fitted thing, then show a little skin...somewhere. If it's cold, that would usually mean collarbone, chest or shoulders. Nothing wrong with showing up bundled and once you are inside a warm place, take off your jacket. Even in jeans and a tee shirt, in what looks to be a throwaway look, you can do it right if it's fitted/not sloppy. *While i totally agree that you should be who you are, it's still a first impression you are going to make & guys are visual beings, so always keep that in mind. 3
some_username1 Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 Ummm, you are literally the only guy I know who does this... No offense at all, I think it's pretty cool, but this isn't true for most men I know, lol. Come to think of it I can recall one date where I did actually notice the girl’s nails purely because they were very well manicured and taken care of- so much so it was very noticeable. So y’know, if they are that well manicured a guy will probably notice even if it’s not something they typically pay attention too. Classy nails are also another signifier of femininity.
some_username1 Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 Three things off the top of my head: *Dress for where you are going to be. It shows that you "get it" basically. You could push the limits of that toward sexier, prettier but as you said that's not really how you roll. *Show your shape. Even a tomboy can do that. Fitted clothing. Even if something is more full or not a traditional sexy fitted thing, then show a little skin...somewhere. If it's cold, that would usually mean collarbone, chest or shoulders. Nothing wrong with showing up bundled and once you are inside a warm place, take off your jacket. Even in jeans and a tee shirt, in what looks to be a throwaway look, you can do it right if it's fitted/not sloppy. *While i totally agree that you should be who you are, it's still a first impression you are going to make & guys are visual beings, so always keep that in mind. The fitted clothing bit is very relevant but the bolded is probably the best bit of advice in the thread. Everyone has a different perspective on what *they* think is appropriate dress but the bottom line is that yes, men are VERY visual (me even more so than most) and whilst being you you still need to cater to that in the same way that men have to cater to the emotional aspects of a woman’s nature even though it does not come naturally to us. A woman who understand and can cater to a man’s visual nature is one step ahead of the competition. 1
Els Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 (edited) Come to think of it I can recall one date where I did actually notice the girl’s nails purely because they were very well manicured and taken care of- so much so it was very noticeable. So y’know, if they are that well manicured a guy will probably notice even if it’s not something they typically pay attention too. Classy nails are also another signifier of femininity. From my observation, something like 30-50% of women tend to have their nails done at any one time (I confess, I like checking out everyone else's nails to look at pretty colors!). For you to only notice it once, that woman's nails wouldn't just be "done", but would have to stand out above the others - very likely an expensive salon job, probably gel or SNS. Maybe with nail art? I dunno, I actually love painting my nails (always DIY and regular polish - gel and SNS looks fantastic but will WRECK your natural nail)... but it's just not something I'd recommend doing for a man's attention. It's a lot of time/money/upkeep for something that doesn't get noticed terribly often IMO. If a woman likes it, she should do it for herself, but otherwise there's not that much point in it. Edited May 31, 2019 by Elswyth 1
some_username1 Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 From my observation, something like 30-50% of women tend to have their nails done at any one time (I confess, I like checking out everyone else's nails to look at pretty colors!). For you to only notice it once, that woman's nails wouldn't just be "done", but would have to stand out above the others - very likely an expensive salon job, probably gel or SNS. Maybe with nail art? I dunno, I actually love painting my nails (always DIY and regular polish - gel and SNS looks fantastic but will WRECK your natural nail)... but it's just not something I'd recommend doing for a man's attention. It's a lot of time/money/upkeep for something that doesn't get noticed terribly often IMO. If a woman likes it, she should do it for herself, but otherwise there's not that much point in it. God no! I hate nail art, tacky and gaudy in my opinion. Especially when girls have like, 6 inch finger nails and painted some bright orange or whatever. Ugh! From memory this girl’s nails were painted a thick grey colour, but what stood out was they were just the right sort of length, slightly past the end of her fingertips and the paint work wasn’t chipped or dented or anything. Maybe she had got them done that day but whatever- they looked noticeably well looked after so for me to notice at all makes me wonder how bad the other girl’s nails have been when I’ve been on dates
Author guest569 Posted May 31, 2019 Author Posted May 31, 2019 Haha I'm glad that nails have come into this. Igave myself a manicure yesterday, I agree that nice nails are important and part of the basic cleanliness and self care. Always makes me feel more sane when my nails are a nice length and shape and have a nice bit of colour. They're looking fairly neutral but shiny. Let's hope my date is a "nails man" haha!
alphamale Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 Classy nails are also another signifier of femininity. it also means that she could be high maintenance 2
Author guest569 Posted May 31, 2019 Author Posted May 31, 2019 it also means that she could be high maintenance I don't have to worry about giving off that impression appearance wise at least.
alphamale Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 I don't have to worry about giving off that impression appearance wise at least.
Tagalz Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 I don't know if I'm dumb or not but I could not find any clue if you are a male or a female. If female: a normal dress with heels are sexy and I'm not talking about the dresses you wear to party cause that's to much skin showing. Or you could go casual as with jeans and a sweatshirt. pretty much every shoe you choose goes with that. If Male: I would wear a flannel cause they are usually thicker than normal shirts, so it will keep you warm. Don't use long sleeve under cause that get's you super hot when you're inside. Also you're inn the 30 - age so you could say that you are still young. As for the bottom go with black jeans or light washed. I would go with chelsea boots or laced up. Hope that helps! 1
some_username1 Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 it also means that she could be high maintenance Well spotted. Funnily enough ‘nice nails girl’ did turn out to be high maintenance. She had expensive food taste- especially when someone else was paying!
JuneL Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 some username: I just checked out your other thread. So you had no problem going on 6 dates (including dinner dates, no less) with a girl who only wore leggings and trainers, and you’re complaining that wearing a casual cute summer dress and shoes that show off the pretty pedicure nails to a first coffee date not dressed up enough?
JuneL Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 Well spotted. Funnily enough ‘nice nails girl’ did turn out to be high maintenance. She had expensive food taste- especially when someone else was paying! And how is dolling all up for a first coffee date not screaming high maintenance?
Gretchen12 Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 I wouldn't worry about your clothes but please make sure your nails are done!! Maybe it's just me but that's the first thing I look at when I meet a girl/go on a date, more so than her clothes. Oh No! If that's what guys look at, then I haven't got a chance! My nails are always short for piano and violin and sometimes not the cleanest from handling paint, pastels and charcoal. I am a mess! But I do have heels... I think that counts for something. 1
snowcones Posted June 1, 2019 Posted June 1, 2019 I think your attitude and excitement about all this is very cute.
Author guest569 Posted June 1, 2019 Author Posted June 1, 2019 It's all a very nerve wracking experience. I am a lot better than I used to be but I was quite nervous during and after the date. I didn't think I would be this bad! Maybe I like him. I wonder if he was nervous and wonder whether he likes me. How does one unwind and stop thinking it over?
alphamale Posted June 1, 2019 Posted June 1, 2019 How does one unwind and stop thinking it over? a couple glasses of some good wine couldn't hurt 1
Author guest569 Posted June 1, 2019 Author Posted June 1, 2019 a couple glasses of some good wine couldn't hurt I can't believe I didn't think of that. Cheers! I'm frrreakin out!
d0nnivain Posted June 1, 2019 Posted June 1, 2019 To calm yourself remind yourself that you put your best foot forward & that is all you can do. What did you end up wearing?
smackie9 Posted June 1, 2019 Posted June 1, 2019 If heels are impractical, guys love thigh high boots. Try that with leggings and a long off the shoulder sweater, with a pop of colour tank top underneath. 2
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