kendahke Posted May 27, 2019 Posted May 27, 2019 I hope the bolded is a joke. Otherwise THAT may be the most frustrating age stereotype I'm dealing with. I'm one of the, perhaps rare, seniors who, other than walking instead of running so no more soccer, ain't in no wheelchair. My mom (still alive) and two of my grandparents lived into their 90s with no wheelchairs. The only wheels I'm interested in are mountain bike wheels so my date and I can get to https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/0/03/View_of_Lake_Awosting_From_a_Cliff.JPG/800px-View_of_Lake_Awosting_From_a_Cliff.JPG (about three miles in over rocky bridle paths from the parking lot and especially scenic in foliage season, another three miles on the path around the lake). That is a gorgeous view. A man your age who can climb this is a rarity, as is a woman, lol... Does walking to the top of Mt. St. Michel twice in one day count?
nospam99 Posted May 27, 2019 Posted May 27, 2019 That is a gorgeous view. A man your age who can climb this is a rarity, as is a woman, lol... Does walking to the top of Mt. St. Michel twice in one day count? You might be surprised at what the men and women my age and older in my hiking meetups can do. This https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mont-Saint-Michel Mt. St. Michel?
max3732 Posted May 27, 2019 Posted May 27, 2019 I signed up for Match at the beginning of the year. I'd been on it before but hadn't in a few years. Thought I would try it again just because. It was depressing as hell. I put in the description and what I am looking for very clearly (looking for a relationship not a hookup, etc.). What did I get? A few weirdos that's for sure : 22 year old guys who look like they are 9 wanting a fling with an older woman (I politely told them no thank you), a guy in his late 30s who started off by asking after the "hi how are you" portion when was the last time I had sex and when was my last relationship (I shut him up immediately telling him my last relationship was 4 years ago, it ended because he went home, went to bed, had a heart attack and died at age 44. Then instead of texting me on my phone number he messages me through the website asking if I want to talk still, I said no because you're 38 and should know better than that). And the one and only one I met was a complete wimp. We met for dinner (I chose the place because he didn't care either way), and he said he was divorced for the last 10 years. His ex wife took advantage of him and was off cavorting with her lover the whole time, they even bought a house together somewhere in upstate New York he didn't know about until he pulled his credit report last year. Never head a word from him again. I knew I wouldn't, he didn't have one aggressive bone in his body. Has anyone else ever had such experiences with Match in particular? After that one lousy date, I said NEVER AGAIN and just let it go. Makes me depressed still. Sounds like a horrible experience! I just signed up again and am in my late 30's. I was on for a year before and sent a personalized message to everyone there that I was interested in and only ended up meeting 1 or 2 women. A lot will respond to the 1st or 2nd message then disappear. When I went to match speed dating it was almost all divorced women in their 50s and I only found 1 person near my age range. My other match event was kayaking that had an odd number of people and the organizer put me in a tandem kayak with another guy that was there. Very awkward. My hope that after a year or 2 there are some new people there and maybe I can do something different to actually meet people. What kind of profile or message would you like to get from a guy?
alphamale Posted May 27, 2019 Posted May 27, 2019 There's a park in Sarasota FL called Sun'N'Fun that would be perfect for a guy like NoSpam. It's filled with older, active people who still have a lot of spunk. I know because when I was working down there helping install their new data and TV infrastructure I was stopped and verbally accosted by more than one 80-90 year old women who were rather upset that we were behind schedule. Go figure. Anyway, as smackie mentioned, OLD isn't going to solve any fundamental dating problems people have. It's just a tool like any other. I used to hang out in Venice a lot, it's just south of Sarasota. Siesta key beach was awesome, lots of older folks there... 1
Author mortensorchid Posted May 28, 2019 Author Posted May 28, 2019 Those stories I shared this time around were just the most colorful. There were times I would be in chats with others and one day they would just go poof, I have nothing good or bad to say about them because we didn't exchange much information to think one way or another. But, I agree, it was/is quite depressing. I will never try it again, like I will never do EHarmony again. It's just an expensive way to talk to people.
snowcones Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 36 miles nospam99?? you have to be more flexible if you want to succeed in OLD I agree with him. In my area 36 miles is more than an hour away. Anyway I gave up n dating.
nospam99 Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 (edited) I will never try it again, like I will never do EHarmony again. It's just an expensive way to talk to people. OP, IMO (which I would be surprised if others do not share) you are negative. That's not a sufficient explanation for your lack of dating success but is highly likely to be a factor. ''Never say 'never'.'' It is not expensive to 'watch and wait'. - Let your paid subscription expire. - Log on every day so interested men WHO FILTER ON ACTIVITY (like me) know you're still around - And wait, patiently, for messages. If or when a 'prospect' whose profile looks 'right' messages you, THEN you can buy a subscription. Or ... tell you what. If you don't want to spend the money at all, send me a PM. I'LL send the prospect this: Hello SomeGuy. My friend, mortensorchid, rarely gets messages from men who she thinks have 'potential'. So she has decided to not pay to subscribe here on Match. However, she tells me that she was impressed enough with your message and profile that she'd like to 'discuss' what you wrote. More however, she doesn't want to subscribe just to exchange messages with you. I suggest you buy a month of Reply For Free and send her another message to let her know you bought it. BTW, I too had no 'success' i.e. met no one on eharmony. As cheap as their prices are I'd be willing to try again BUT the last time I did their messaging code no longer worked with my browser (THEIR problem sez me because I can and do send messages on Match, POF, and OKC). Another BTW - Match is notorious for changing their code and not explaining what it does. At the moment it looks to me based on the profiles I read that the activity indicator goes blank after only three days. Edited May 28, 2019 by nospam99 1
CLS63AMG Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 OP, IMO (which I would be surprised if others do not share) you are negative. That's not a sufficient explanation for your lack of dating success but is highly likely to be a factor. ''Never say 'never'.'' It is not expensive to 'watch and wait'. - Let your paid subscription expire. - Log on every day so interested men WHO FILTER ON ACTIVITY (like me) know you're still around - And wait, patiently, for messages. If or when a 'prospect' whose profile looks 'right' messages you, THEN you can buy a subscription. Or ... tell you what. If you don't want to spend the money at all, send me a PM. I'LL send the prospect this: Hello SomeGuy. My friend, mortensorchid, rarely gets messages from men who she thinks have 'potential'. So she has decided to not pay to subscribe here on Match. However, she tells me that she was impressed enough with your message and profile that she'd like to 'discuss' what you wrote. More however, she doesn't want to subscribe just to exchange messages with you. I suggest you buy a month of Reply For Free and send her another message to let her know you bought it. BTW, I too had no 'success' i.e. met no one on eharmony. As cheap as their prices are I'd be willing to try again BUT the last time I did their messaging code no longer worked with my browser (THEIR problem sez me because I can and do send messages on Match, POF, and OKC). Another BTW - Match is notorious for changing their code and not explaining what it does. At the moment it looks to me based on the profiles I read that the activity indicator goes blank after only three days. eharmony doesn't tell you when the person was last online, they removed it due to there not being enough paid members. There was a case on there of an older woman meeting her husband off there, they dated, married and then he passed away, a few years later she made a new account and HIS was one of the first ones she was matched with - it had been deleted by him over 10 years prior. That's eharmony for you. 1
kendahke Posted May 29, 2019 Posted May 29, 2019 You might be surprised at what the men and women my age and older in my hiking meetups can do. thanks for the tip! This https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mont-Saint-Michel Mt. St. Michel? Oui! C'est ça!!
Cinnamon_Girl Posted May 29, 2019 Posted May 29, 2019 A few years back, I paid for a six-month membership on eHarmony. I never received even one message or "match." I was living in a small town at the time, though. With the exception of Match, I get daily messages on the other sites I'm on, and have been dating regularly.
Zippy2000 Posted May 30, 2019 Posted May 30, 2019 Guys! Its easy to slam internet dating. Its not worked for me but there are millions out there who have met using this way. I have 2 friends who have met their partners this way and one has been married for 2 years. Internet dating isnt what it used to be. Years ago and I mean almost a decade ago. Things were more serious. The geeks the people who wanted relationships used internet dating and believe me. it works or there ont be success stories. How has it changed? Its changed in the last few years because APPs like Tinder, Grinder or Plenty of Fish were originally hook up sites. Sites to look for sex or a bit of fun. Whats wrong with that? Well nothing wrong BUT its brought internet dating on your phone and EVERYONE is at it. This means you have more players, weirdos, sex pests and serial killers you have to filter out. Over a decade ago I first was online you had to have a computer. A desk top but mobiles or cell phones nowadays have access online. It wasnt always like that. Back in the day a mobile/cell phone was only a way of texting or phoning someone. Look, what Im trying to say is if you dont like online dating then dont do it. I say its a great way of meeting people who have the same goal......Getting into a relationship. If you dont like it then go back to real life but its no different from online dating. Online dating is just like a newspaper. You buy it somedays and theres nothing on there that interests you. Buy a newspaper a few days down the line and there will be articles things that will interest you just like OLD. Just dont bash it because the beauty is. That special person hasnt appeared in the columns of your newspaper because your too busy bashing OLD and skimming through the potentials. You might miss them. Now just slow down and enjoy your journey, because as its not all about the destination. 1
JEG88 Posted May 31, 2019 Posted May 31, 2019 I met my current GF online on OkCupid about 2 years ago, so it has been a positive experience for me obviously. I've tried most of the more well-known sites, but never got into the newer ones like Tinder/Bumble/etc. Bottom line is, if you're looking for something serious, you have to learn how to filter people before meeting. 90% just using common sense, but also just the "feel" you get from talking to someone as well. You learn fast how to read people's tone, intent and language through text/messaging. POF - A few meet-ups but I didn't want any subsequent dates. Way more people just looking for hook-ups/sex compared to other sites OkCupid - By far the most active site I was on, in terms of replies and actually meeting up people to test the waters Match - Lots of matches, but no meet-ups. Felt like the pool of people was the same over and over. eHarmony - By far the worst site I was on. Very little/slow activity, only one meet-up.
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