john9999 Posted May 24, 2019 Posted May 24, 2019 Maybe Online dating has just run it's course. I am not sure, but I do know that my results for Online dating are not anywhere near what it used to be. I am still on the same sites, I am still a good looking , in shape 52 year old guy. But in the 3 years since I became single again and tried Online dating it has just been dismal. What do you guys/gals think? 1
Mrin Posted May 24, 2019 Posted May 24, 2019 Wrong side of 50. You're probably getting age filtered. 2
Author john9999 Posted May 24, 2019 Author Posted May 24, 2019 the women I am trying to meet are also my age.. I am not trying to date women in their 30"s... I go 5 years over and under my own age. I just think the novelty of online dating finally ran out. Everyone has tried it now and over it. 1
Mrin Posted May 24, 2019 Posted May 24, 2019 the women I am trying to meet are also my age.. I am not trying to date women in their 30"s... I go 5 years over and under my own age. I just think the novelty of online dating finally ran out. Everyone has tried it now and over it. What sites? Have you tried Bumble?
Author john9999 Posted May 24, 2019 Author Posted May 24, 2019 Bumble... yes.. not one single date... it is so ass-backwards... women do not want to make the first move.. now here's something good, Bumble was founded by a woman who previously worked at Tinder.
chillii Posted May 24, 2019 Posted May 24, 2019 (edited) ln my brief stint l kinda found it alright actually. Met some good women no way l would've met in RL. What l did find in my age , your bracket, was finding someone still in shape that l'd actually wanna meet, or that wasn't pretty messed up , which you could usually see right there on their page in the way they talked, or that didn't have too many kids. Things all along those type of lines were the hard part and then things in common and like mindedness. No use 100s meeting because they aren't worth even emailing in the first place. But l never wanted to meet 100s anyway, more bide my time and be very very selective even if just one or two but at least worthwhile. Try that type of view, quality is what's important not numbers. Edited May 24, 2019 by chillii
Rayce Posted May 24, 2019 Posted May 24, 2019 Most people don't do the paid subscription so they can't respond anyway. I've given up on OLD sites because they are driving by $$ and algorithms. I want random so I've been trying Reddit and gotten more dates in the last month than any other dating site since New Years.
kendahke Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Maybe Online dating has just run it's course. I am not sure, but I do know that my results for Online dating are not anywhere near what it used to be. I am still on the same sites, I am still a good looking , in shape 52 year old guy. But in the 3 years since I became single again and tried Online dating it has just been dismal. What do you guys/gals think? I agree... I'm 59 and I'm wasting my time on Tinder right now with these guys who swipe right...then it's up to me to start a conversation--which I do. I show interest and ask questions about their profiles and radio silence. I've got a policy now that if I don't get a response within 48 hours, I unmatch them. They got the wrong one on that tip.
kendahke Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 What sites? Have you tried Bumble? Bumble sucks as badly as Tinder and the rest of them when you get to a certain age.
alphamale Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Bumble sucks as badly as Tinder and the rest of them when you get to a certain age. they all suck, just another way to part you from your money 3
chillii Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 l used a free one , it was pretty good for the bucks too , all things considered.
MeadowFlower Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Most people don't do the paid subscription so they can't respond anyway. I've given up on OLD sites because they are driving by $$ and algorithms. I want random so I've been trying Reddit and gotten more dates in the last month than any other dating site since New Years. How do you use reddit for dating?
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 I tried OLD once for 90 days almost 15 years ago. I hated it then. I can only imagine it has gotten worse not that it's a phone based app. At 52 have you tried Our Time or a site designed for people who are over 50? You'd be the young guy there. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 I've had a bunch of dates and a couple relationships that weren't quite right from free dating sites, recently broke up with someone I met on a free site. I'm pretty sure I'm over them, going back to the old-fashioned way. 1
nospam99 Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 d0nni is one of the best folks here. But on this topic, especially regarding ourtime, she and I disagree. I always must qualify my opinion by pointing out that my experience is based on the OLD 'market' where I live. That said, ourtime sux. It's the first one I tried and it just didn't deliver. To answer the OP question, what's up with OLD is it all sux, some just worse than others. I, at 65, agree with a couple of other posters that there are age thresholds. Personally I was getting about 30% responses UNTIL I hit 65 in February. Since then 5%. Coincidence? You judge. Aside from the age factor, where I live I still find match.com to be in a class by itself for the number of women who join, reasonable pricing, useful information in profiles, and the likelihood that a woman on any of the other sites, ourtime included, is also on match.
nospam99 Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Hey Ruby, IIRC you had met an ex-Marine who you really liked. Was that him? In any case, sorry it didn't work out. 1
Rayce Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 How do you use reddit for dating? I created an account which gives you a profile page. I added a little bio and then posted some pics in some of the adults rooms specific for my area (r/r4rcityspecific). It's free and I can respond or initiate chats with whoever I want. No algorithm involved.
d0nnivain Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Thank you nospam99 That said, ourtime sux. It's the first one I tried and it just didn't deliver. John9999 -- Listen to nospam. My OLD / dating app experience is 15 years out of date. I've never been a fan, though.
Gretchen12 Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 There's a lot of recyling in OLD. I think the relationships you get off of dating sites don't last as long. So both parties go right back on the site. After a while you keep seeing the same people. You even become familiar with their photos. Once in a while a new member arrives. But is he really new? Or is he just back from a relationship and now has a new account? When I was on a site that displayed the join date, I saw some people had been on the site for over 10 years. I think 10 years means OLD was a fail for that person.
CLS63AMG Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 (edited) Started using those sites in 2014, been on over 100 dates and final conclusion is that it doesn't work - for multiple reasons. Had a bunch of girlfriends from them, all short term, 3-4 months, all blatantly non compatible after hanging out with them for awhile. All of them had issues, which everyone has, but the rejects find themselves on dating sites forever IMO. Beautiful women that are narcissists, permanently unavailable, permanently looking for men that don't exist, pathological liars, physical or mental issues, perpetual f*** ups - and they all have one thing in common, a perfect profile that will have you clawing to meet them. A lot of people will say this stuff off the cuff but I am saying its true because I have the data to back it up - I've seen it all. Also don't forget the biggest issue with OLD, at any given time 60% or more are rebounding and need to go use a few people off them to realize they aren't anywhere close to being ready for a new relationship. Edited May 25, 2019 by CLS63AMG 1
CLS63AMG Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Also - swipe apps big fault is almost every swipe a girl takes is a match, so now she's juggling 25 guys, and you can tell this in their answers / chatting. The pay sites are a sausage fest for them and they get flooded with messages, or the women on them aren't paid and can't read anything you send - they just like all the emails they get telling them how many people have messaged them etc. Its a system that doesn't work and something new has to happen because meeting new people digitally isn't going away, it has to be refined though.
The Outlaw Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Best way to meet somebody is through mutual friends. At least in that capacity, you can find out if you're compatible or not. Online dating is becoming more of a bust. It's more for hookups, or meetings can be arranged only for them to flake at the last minute. It isn't true with all of them, it's just better to broaden your horizons so to speak.
elaine567 Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 TFY on another thread made a good observation. Older women, some very good looking, can just shut up shop once partners die or leave, putting all their energies into family, friends, work, pets etc. If such women are opting out of being available to date, then it will limit choices. 1
Rayce Posted May 25, 2019 Posted May 25, 2019 Don't forget the ones that just give up on dating all together. I can't remember the last time someone in my circle introduced me to someone. That just doesn't happen. I've asked friends to introduce me to single men they or their SO may know but I always get the same response.... They just don't know anyone that they think would be good enough for me. Not sure about other industries but in healthcare it is such a politically correct environment that people are afraid to chat you up... at least that has been my experience.
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