thatsme123 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Well, after five months of complete no contact and of me feeling almost 100% better, he IMed me yesterday. Acting as if the whole five months didn't even happen (he was the one that broke up with me, by the way. And we're 18 and 19 years old). He said he IMed me because he had seen on my away message that I was looking for someone to come with me to this comedy show, and he said he'd go because the show had been sold out and he couldn't get tickets. I asked him why he contacted me, and he said "mainly because of the tickets, but I was also curious as to how you're doing." So I accused him of basically just wanting to use me for the tickets, and he said that it was actually the exact opposite. We talked for a while about meaningless stuff and then that was that, there wasn't a real conclusion. I thought that maybe this was a good sign, that now I could really have "closure", since I didn't really feel affected by him contacting me. Heh, I was wrong. I went to a bar that night with some friends, and one of them was my ex's friend. And of course I had to be stupid and ask his friend if my ex had seen anyone over the period of time that we had had NC. And I was told that he had been seeing this girl that he worked with, and they slept together. I ran to the bathroom and just sobbed. He had told me when we broke up that he "didn't want to be with anyone" and he wasn't going to be with anyone else. He had told me that he wasn't one of those guys that just does things with girls, that he likes it to be meaningful (I was his first girlfriend, he lost his virginity to me). I felt betrayed. I know that we weren't together, but the thought of him just doing all that stuff made me realize that he just isn't the person I thought he was. I called my sister and she told me that him doing that was just his way of trying to get over me, and a lot of guys do it. She also said that this other girl obviously didn't mean much to him since he was contacting me and all that stuff. I don't know. I just feel really ****ty right now. I know what I have to do. I am going back to NC. But I just could use some kind words now I guess.
Author thatsme123 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 Things just got bad. He felt smothered by me, I was depressed, he was depressed, and I was in college and he was still in high school.
Rocko Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Look's like he's going through a phase ... and it probably won't end soon. Look up posts by Eddpad, Lostinmymind, SuperRex83. (And Welcome to the Club of People Who Have Ex's that are Young and the Confused ) Best bet is to continue with the NC and see what happens down the road of life. Thats pretty much all we can do. Don't worry, you're not alone. We're here for you.
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