Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Posted May 20, 2019 (edited) Last Friday was the final straw for me. That's it. I can't work under this person. Manager asked me to discuss with her. So, I went to her office. we talked and talked to come up with idea. She had the ideas, initially I thought that was great and later I had an light bulb moment and said how about do this instead. She got super mad and said why don't you figure out yourself and don't ask me...blabla...I said you are a user I need to ask you if you like the idea. and she said I am not, blabla... she became a wall and very fightsty. so I ended up implemented the idea on the spot and show her and asked her what she thinks. and she said what the manger thinks. I said I am not a manager...and then she attacked me saying I was a BA, and I shouldn't be in a pool of candidates for the same position level as her(she is one level above me). turned out she didn't know how my idea worked, probably sounded very complicate to her. I did it in about a minute. She is really not a very technical person. often she pissed at me if I come up with different idea or just ignore me because she didn't understand my idea. She was basically scolding me. I think she is very disrespectful. she expected a yes man from me, but didn't get it this time. I think I have enough. Going to talk to director or manager. if they don't put me in the same level as her, it definitely is better working for somebody else. The reason I stay was because I was under the impression there is/are spot in the team. but I don't think I can wait forever. It's the fed. so I suppose I can move to other depts. I only been there for 16 months and I am already the second longest serving member of the team. Guess other people are smart, so they all left. Edited May 20, 2019 by Springsummer
Author Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Author Posted May 20, 2019 or if you were me, is it worth while to stay in the same team with a condescending person even you get a promotion however unlikely?
Author Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Author Posted May 20, 2019 Last Friday was the final straw for me. That's it. I can't work under this person. Manager asked me to discuss with her to come up with a solution. So, I went to her office. we talked and talked to come up with ideas. She had the idea, initially I thought that was great and later I had a light bulb moment and said how about do this instead. She got super mad and said why don't you figure out yourself and don't ask me...blabla...I said you are a user I need to ask you if you like the idea. and she said I am not, blabla... she became a wall and very feisty. so I ended up implemented the idea on the spot and shown her and asked her what she thinks. and she said what would the manger thinks. I said I am not a manager...and then she attacked me saying I was a BA, and I shouldn't be in a pool of candidates for the same position level as her(she is one level above me). turned out she didn't know how my idea worked, probably sounded very complicate to her. I did it in about a minute. She is really not a very technical person. often she pissed at me if I came up with different idea or just ignored me because she didn't understand my idea. She was basically scolding me. I think she was very disrespectful. she expected a yes man from me, but didn't get it this time. I think I have enough. Going to talk to the director or manager. if they don't put me in the same level as her, it definitely is better working for somebody else. The reason I stay is because I was under the impression there is/are spot in the team. but I don't think I can wait much longer. It's the fed. so I suppose I can move to other depts. I have only been there for 16 months and I am already the second longest serving member of the team. Guess other people are smart, so they all left.
Author Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Author Posted May 20, 2019 please repost in clear english hey, you know not every body's first or second language is English:( especially when I am not in a calm state of mind.
alphamale Posted May 20, 2019 Posted May 20, 2019 hey, you know not every body's first or second language is English:( especially when I am not in a calm state of mind. sorry, didn't mean to offend but I cannot understand what your issue is
Author Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Author Posted May 20, 2019 (edited) Please delete this thread. My brain just screwed up when thinking about it. Edited May 20, 2019 by Springsummer
UpwardForward Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 (edited) I believe I understand your situation. And get the idea. I think it is essential that you apply at other companies to 'test' the market according to your job and abilities. See if you can get what you want elsewhere. You may have a lot more ammunition if you think you can get in to another company. Then you can market yourself with your supervisor, and with the possibility of advancement. Or, just step lightly in the meantime.. Edited May 21, 2019 by UpwardForward 1
Author Springsummer Posted May 21, 2019 Author Posted May 21, 2019 Actually forget about promotion. I want to just leave. I can not see that person eye to eye.
alphamale Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 Actually forget about promotion. I want to just leave. I can not see that person eye to eye. probably a good idea ss
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 I believe that you care too much about interpersonal drama. That's most people's downfall. If they only spent as much time working as they do gossiping and obsessing over what others think of them...they would get that promotion. All that other stuff is white noise. Once you get another job, it will be like these people never existed.
salparadise Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 hey, you know not every body's first or second language is English:( especially when I am not in a calm state of mind. In that case, may we suggest doing a first draft in a text editor, waiting awhile until you calm down, then proofing and correcting for clarity, sentence structure, and grammar and punctuation. Those who actually cannot do better get more latitude than those who don't bother, but it all looks the same from the reader's perspective.
Eternal Sunshine Posted May 22, 2019 Posted May 22, 2019 I would like to see some of the English speaking people type fluently in a foreign language... 1
Author Springsummer Posted May 23, 2019 Author Posted May 23, 2019 (edited) I would like to see some of the English speaking people type fluently in a foreign language... When I talked about painful experience, my brain was fried, barely able to function...can you do editing when you are in pain? and of course my English is not that good either. hahaha...talk about foreign language...you can't be in a managerial position if you don't speak both official languages. and none of the official language is my first and second language. that bitchy person can not move up any further because she can't speak French and English is her first and only language. Now I have to be able to speak French...and French is much crazier than English. If judging by culture and language, my brain is at least two times bigger than hers. and she is so condescending towards me just because she is one level above me in the team? give me a break. Edited May 23, 2019 by Springsummer
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