stillafool Posted May 20, 2019 Posted May 20, 2019 (edited) So I'm not talking about leaving my pajamas there so I wear it everytime I go. I would agree that's too much and we arent there yet. I'm talking about if I accidentally ( not intentionally) forget my earrings etc... I wouldn't think it's a big deal if he forgets something like that at mine. Can just simply pick it up next time I see him. I'm not going to accuse him of seeing someone else just based on this though. And if he is just trying to establish some boundaries I'm totally fine with it. I agree I'm a very curious person lol and probably just really sensitive to such small things. But I'll go with the flow now. I saw an old movie the other day where the guys were talking about a trick women use to show up unannounced is to leave something behind. This movie was made in the 1940's so men have been aware of this move by women for a long time. Not saying you were purposely trying to leave something. If he is reminding you to not forget something while you are there why don't you consider that helpful? I'm sure you don't want to forget anything do you? I could understand if you accidentally left something and he seemed peeved about it because you had already left but you were still there when he reminded you. Edited May 21, 2019 by a LoveShack.org Moderator quote edited
where do i begin Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 I totally get where you are coming from and this would annoy me as well. What’s the big deal if you leave something behind? Have you asked him? I. D.o.n.t think you’re being paranoid, this is a red flag for me. Is this someone you’re dating or a SO?
Redhead14 Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 I totally get where you are coming from and this would annoy me as well. What’s the big deal if you leave something behind? Have you asked him? I. D.o.n.t think you’re being paranoid, this is a red flag for me. Is this someone you’re dating or a SO? She just started dating this one for a month. She should not be leaving things at his place and she shouldn't be staying there as often as she has been anyway.
LivingWaterPlease Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 I'd appreciate a guy doing this for me. I hate to leave stuff behind anywhere. You never know when you might need it later before you see the person again. And if it looks as if someone (anyone) is going to leave something behind at my place I hand it to them so that they won't get home and be wondering where they left it. Or need it and not have it. Although I don't consider myself meticulous, I have plenty to do to keep my own house from accumulating clutter so another reason not to want to have someone leaving their things at my house is to more easily be able to keep things neat. When someone leaves things at your house, OP, what do you do with them (it)? Do you have a place designated for lost and found type things? Or do you just leave it where it is until they come pick it up? Does it blend in with other objects that might be on a counter top? Etc. When someone leaves things at my house I'm happy to accommodate them by trying to get their possession to them, but it's one more thing I have to think about and do. So, I really like to be sure if it looks as if someone is going to leave something in my home I get it to them before they leave my house.
Author h0000 Posted May 21, 2019 Author Posted May 21, 2019 (edited) If he forgets something at mine I'll just put it on the table I guess, so he can see it next time and pick it up. I wouldnt blend his stuff with mine lol I won't pay a lot of attention on whether he takes something off so I'll need to remind him when he leaves though. It's like, if you don't say anything, I'm fine checking my belongings. but if you have to remind me on small things, I start to wonder "hmm whats the bid deal anyway?" You know what I mean? But maybe let's not blow it up to something significant. I wouldn't say it's a "red flag" already. He did mention he doesnt want to live with anyone other than his (future)wife. So maybe he's just drawing the boundary here. Or maybe he is just very attentive. Edited May 21, 2019 by h0000
LivingWaterPlease Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 If he forgets something at mine I'll just put it on the table I guess, so he can see it next time and pick it up. I wouldnt blend his stuff with mine lol I won't pay a lot of attention on whether he takes something off so I'll need to remind him when he leaves though. It's like, if you don't say anything, I'm fine checking my belongings. but if you have to remind me on small things, I start to wonder "hmm whats the bid deal anyway?" You know what I mean? But maybe let's not blow it up to something significant. I wouldn't say it's a "red flag" already. He did mention he doesnt want to live with anyone other than his (future)wife. So maybe he's just drawing the boundary here. Or maybe he is just very attentive. OK, you just put it on the table if he forgets something at your house. But there are some people who don't want to look at an object on their table for three or four days while they wait to reconnect with the person and return it to them. It's kind of like clutter which bothers a lot of people. That and/or other aforementioned practical reasons may be why this guy is trying to help you not leave things at his house.
LoverOfDance Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 There's one thing i want to know: you say you see this man 2 to 3 times a week. Who sets up the dates? If you've had 11 dates with him so far, how many times has he asked you to meet up?
LoverOfDance Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 You are on here creating threads about seemingly little things. There is a reason you are making these threads. When ppl try to point out that your gut is right and that there is something off about this man, you begin to defend him. A man that is open to committing to you WILL NOT care if you forget something at his place. Simple. What i want to know is, is he the one always trying to see you? If so, then you're good for now. 1
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