mants123 Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 There is a female friend whom I’ve been texting with for a few months. We first met less than a year ago and have gone out a couple of times. Unfortunately, she is now completing her postgrad in another country and even after she’s done, we may not end up in the same place (we’re from different countries). I’ve been hoping to keep in touch with her as a friend, since the distance makes it impossible anyway. We got along well and she always responded enthusiastically, we shared a lot and we have many shared passion and interests. However, one day, out of the blue, she started responding slower and less often, and she would reply to some of my texts, but not others. I don’t believe I did or said anything wrong that triggered that, nor did I take things too fast. It was all just friendly conversations, asking basic and harmless questions, trying to get to know her better. She doesn’t completely ignore me and some of the texts are still friendly. However, isn’t it odd that she would not reply to some of my texts, even as a friend?
elaine567 Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 My guess is, she now has a love interest or an actual bf.
Flame Aura Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 She's met someone who she wants to be more than friends with, which is what she is with you. Just friends. A love interest will off course take priority, that's life. You are wasting your time talking to her if you are waiting for something to develop. If anything was to have happened, it would have by now, distance or no distance. Let her live her life and move on and live yours.
Versacehottie Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 Of course she could be interested in someone where she is, but another thing to think about is if you have already determined something is "impossible" between you she is just responding as people do when something is impossible (or difficult): half-in, half-out. That's what people do when that is the underlying situation. It's really the same as you/her/both of you deciding something is "impossible". One is the macro view and one is the micro view, on a day to day, text by text basis. Don't take it badly and just continue in your friendly way. If it's meant to be in the long run it will be. Don't create unnecessary drama that you can't come back from in the future. Oh, and don't be a doormat in this situation. Good luck
preraph Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 Young people in school are busy and distracted and cycling through new friends and dates weekly.
smackie9 Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 My guess is that the novelty of your correspondence has worn off. Her social life there is probably taking off. This happens when you are new in town...you meet new people and go out and do things. 1
mortensorchid Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 LDRs are terrible things. I have been in two in my lifetime (as an adult) - the first I did the wrong way, the second I did the right way. If you are not seeing each other (as in the flesh seeing each other) at least once a month, you tend to do a lot of fantasizing. And when you are together you are in this huge rush to jump in the sack and/or you are having a wonderful time. This ends up feeding the fantasy even further and will hurt you both. And not to mention the fact that you have no idea what this person is or isn't doing when you are not around. The second LDR I was in was waning ... And I slept with not one but two other guys who came along. We were ships that passed in the night, spent a lost weekend with them. And then it was over with. It's tapering off. Get ready for it.
Lotsgoingon Posted May 21, 2019 Posted May 21, 2019 She's met someone near her to date ... or she simply has a full and rich life where she is. Texting someone immediately who is overseas ... who you only met a few months ago ... can easily NOT be a priority. Talking to you might be fun ... but not as fun as talking to the real people around her. You're simply not a priority. That's one view. Another view (which can be true along with the first view) is that she sorta likes you, but realizes texting you while leaving far from each other ... is going nowhere. So she slows the texting. You gotta know: texting is so out of context ... like are you texting about what her day is like? ... what her social life if like? ... You'd learn ten times more about her and what's going on if you were having phone conversations. BTW: you really do NOT want to make texting her a priority either.
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