Springsummer Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 what a shock. This guy I know in real life swipe right/like on the app. This is the 3rd guy I know in real life that swiped right. and I know very few people in this city. I am sure he recognizes me? I went for a few months language tutoring, a few hours a week. His family founded the school. He made me wonder if he hit on me while in school, because he will ask what I do on weekend, and ask me personal situation, etc... The thing is I am not attracted to them. There is one I like at work that I don't think he likes me, but not absolutely for sure. we don't even say hi to each other. so, nothing has ever happen to me in my life. Just perpetually in a limbo. Do I ask for this? or just someone above like to play with my life?
kendahke Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 so, nothing has ever happen to me in my life. Just perpetually in a limbo. Welcome to being an adult, where you have the power to change that without having to ask your parents for permission. Do I ask for this? or just someone above like to play with my life? Why is this so deep? Swipe left and keep it moving.
Happy Lemming Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 You need to summon up the courage to take a proactive stance towards improving your love life. No just "swiping" a screen... You need to get social. Go out in the real world and meet people. Try to make small talk with a stranger while waiting in a checkout line or at a bar/pub or a book store or where ever. The more you try, the more likely you are to succeed. As for the gentleman at work, stop pining over him and introduce yourself. Ask him if he'd like to go to lunch with you. You'll never know if he likes you if you don't take charge of the situation. 2
chillii Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 l don't see anyone messin with ya , we all had interest from people we weren't interested in. Yaknow , it's like if only . But yeah l'd trying making an effort getting out more, be open , feel open , warm, chit chat to people as you go , if nothing else it makes you feel great and gets you use to operating again, picks up the spirits. Who know with the work guy, nothing to go on but eh give him a smile next time or chat if you get the chance, if he doesn't spark up his not interested, nothing out there nothing lost. 1
basil67 Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 You're describing fairly normal activity. There are people we want who aren't interested in us....and vice verca. Just got to keep working towards finding someone where feelings are mutual.
d0nnivain Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 They swiped right on the app but didn't make a move in person because they have no ability to interact without a device in their hand. Until they saw you on the app they might not have know you were single & looking. His Qs about what you are doing was an expression of interest. If you are not interested, just swipe left. It has to be mutual.
salparadise Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 How do you know they swiped right? Because you swiped right too and you matched. Then you post about it here and complain that you're not attracted and you wonder if someone is messing with your head. A free clue... if you don't like the person, swipe left. 1
Author Springsummer Posted May 19, 2019 Author Posted May 19, 2019 How do you know they swiped right? Because you swiped right too and you matched. Then you post about it here and complain that you're not attracted and you wonder if someone is messing with your head. A free clue... if you don't like the person, swipe left. You can see a list of people who swiped right/like you if you paid.
Author Springsummer Posted May 19, 2019 Author Posted May 19, 2019 They swiped right on the app but didn't make a move in person because they have no ability to interact without a device in their hand. Until they saw you on the app they might not have know you were single & looking. His Qs about what you are doing was an expression of interest. If you are not interested, just swipe left. It has to be mutual. I think he made quite some moves in real life...one time he even asked if I want to go to party. I purposefully didn't take his hints.
Author Springsummer Posted May 19, 2019 Author Posted May 19, 2019 what is the question? just rant about the irony of life. nothing really works for me. while other people moving at the speed of life. my life stands still.
devilish innocent Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 If it's only three guys that you've ruled out for not being your type, then I wouldn't be too concerned. Somebody who is your type will come along. If you hardly ever meet anybody who you would be interested in, you may want to change your thinking. When I was younger, I used to be attracted to one guy who I rarely spoke to. Every time I would talk to another guy, they would not live up to my fantasy of what I was imagining with the guy I liked. Hence, I was ruling everybody else out and not giving them a chance. If you think that's what's happening with you, then you might want to start making an effort to give other guys more of a chance.
Author Springsummer Posted May 19, 2019 Author Posted May 19, 2019 (edited) If you hardly ever meet anybody who you would be interested in, you may want to change your thinking. When I was younger, I used to be attracted to one guy who I rarely spoke to. Every time I would talk to another guy, they would not live up to my fantasy of what I was imagining with the guy I liked. Hence, I was ruling everybody else out and not giving them a chance. If you think that's what's happening with you, then you might want to start making an effort to give other guys more of a chance. Yes. I hardly ever meet anybody that I am interested. I thought about that. that's why I didn't swipe left right away. but in the end, I just don't think I have the stomach for them. I also wonder if the guy I like live up to my fantasy. The other days, I tried on a pair of jean I thought look fantastic on me, but it's a bit too tight, and there is no other pair in different size in the store. so I went home and searched the web intensively and didn't find it at all. so after a few weeks I went to same store again, surprisingly this time it has one pair of my size left, so I tried it on, but I didn't find it that good this time at all. I didn't end up buying it. Talk about fantasy, surprise and disappointment. Edited May 19, 2019 by Springsummer
dispatch3d Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 Guys swipe right at least 5x more than girls, this right swipe is not a big deal at all...
Author Springsummer Posted May 19, 2019 Author Posted May 19, 2019 Guys swipe right at least 5x more than girls, this right swipe is not a big deal at all... I think so. Maybe even more so. some desperate guys even swipe right on every woman.
dispatch3d Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 I think so. Maybe even more so. some desperate guys even swipe right on every woman. Hey, look here, we are just trying to figure out who swiped us and filtering after. Also this hurts your algorithm so don't do it, I learned the hard way.
Author Springsummer Posted May 19, 2019 Author Posted May 19, 2019 I think I have at least over 10K on the list accumulatively (some times I just get rid of some when it became hard to manage). the thing this person surprises me is because we actually interacted in life for awhile.
kendahke Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 (edited) Talk about fantasy, surprise and disappointment. Remove fantasy out of this equation--adults don't operate in fantasy land. some desperate guys even swipe right on every woman. you set yourself up for your own disappointment with unrealistic expectations of strangers. Edited May 19, 2019 by kendahke
JuneL Posted May 19, 2019 Posted May 19, 2019 I think I have at least over 10K on the list accumulatively (some times I just get rid of some when it became hard to manage). the thing this person surprises me is because we actually interacted in life for awhile. So of these over 10k right swipes, how many did you swipe right, and how many you ended up meeting in person?
Author Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Author Posted May 20, 2019 So of these over 10k right swipes, how many did you swipe right, and how many you ended up meeting in person? over 1 dozen? none in person in this app. met a handful in another non swiping app a few years ago. nothing happen.
JuneL Posted May 20, 2019 Posted May 20, 2019 over 1 dozen? none in person. Yes, you’re making your life very difficult! How did you choose which profiles to swipe right? What’s stopping you from meeting any of the mutual right swipes??
Author Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Author Posted May 20, 2019 You need to summon up the courage to take a proactive stance towards improving your love life. No just "swiping" a screen... You need to get social. Go out in the real world and meet people. Try to make small talk with a stranger while waiting in a checkout line or at a bar/pub or a book store or where ever. The more you try, the more likely you are to succeed. As for the gentleman at work, stop pining over him and introduce yourself. Ask him if he'd like to go to lunch with you. You'll never know if he likes you if you don't take charge of the situation. I still think it's a man's job to show interest first. Funny thing is I know nothing about him. has kid? EXs? that might be deal breaker for me.
Author Springsummer Posted May 20, 2019 Author Posted May 20, 2019 Yes, you’re making your life very difficult! How did you choose which profiles to swipe right? What’s stopping you from meeting any of the mutual right swipes?? How I feel when looking at the pics? half don't initial talk so just hanging there. some are jerks. some I don't feel I want to anymore. 2-3 times I actually initial talk first, those people don't take you serious if I talk first.
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