klandes Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I can't organize my head to actually make the right choice between two guys. My ex of 2yrs and this new amazing guy of only 3 months. My ex has done so much damage to me and to our relationship (see previous posts) that my often vindictive self won't let go of. I'm currently staying at my ex's because i had no luck finding a place, however i am looking desperately to move out because i cannot live this way, it still feels like we are together, and some of it is my fault for letting old feelings creep back up. We felt totally comfortable back again and we ended up sleeping together. I never cheated on anyone before, but now i can fully understand when in certain situations you just can't control it. And i have no excuses for it. My ex is aware of my relationship with this "new guy" who is also aware of my new living arrangements with the "ex". They both know the current situation. They both hate it. I asked the BF about my moving to my ex's and he was willing to accept it, as long as he doesn't "lose" me. This reaction is beyond me. I cannot tell my current boyfriend what has happened, please don't ask me to do so. I'll accept the slut remarks but i don't have the heart to tell him the details. There are some things better left unsaid. I am falling for this guy, and i believe the feeling is mutual, i wanted to give it a chance. But after what happened with the ex I considered the option of breaking up with him, and believe me i have tried... I brought up the long distance and how it's impossible to make it work, and he came back saying that he's decided to move to the city and wants to find a place together. I freaked out. If i decide to continue with my current BF, how can i? if i do end up moving in with him, my ex will go insane, he will do crazy things and i'm just lost at this point, maybe i should just dissapear for a while and let them be.
LoveNoLoss Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I was EXACTLY in your shoes last year. Why don't you private message me. I think I might be able to offer you alot of insight on this matter.
In Like Flynn Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 How about giving yourself a break and choose neither!!!! Start fresh in 6 months to a year. Just a thought!!
weescotslassie Posted November 16, 2005 Posted November 16, 2005 I can't organize my head to actually make the right choice between two guys. My ex of 2yrs and this new amazing guy of only 3 months. My ex has done so much damage to me and to our relationship (see previous posts) that my often vindictive self won't let go of. I'm currently staying at my ex's because i had no luck finding a place, however i am looking desperately to move out because i cannot live this way, it still feels like we are together, and some of it is my fault for letting old feelings creep back up. We felt totally comfortable back again and we ended up sleeping together. I never cheated on anyone before, but now i can fully understand when in certain situations you just can't control it. And i have no excuses for it. My ex is aware of my relationship with this "new guy" who is also aware of my new living arrangements with the "ex". They both know the current situation. They both hate it. I asked the BF about my moving to my ex's and he was willing to accept it, as long as he doesn't "lose" me. This reaction is beyond me. I cannot tell my current boyfriend what has happened, please don't ask me to do so. I'll accept the slut remarks but i don't have the heart to tell him the details. There are some things better left unsaid. I am falling for this guy, and i believe the feeling is mutual, i wanted to give it a chance. But after what happened with the ex I considered the option of breaking up with him, and believe me i have tried... I brought up the long distance and how it's impossible to make it work, and he came back saying that he's decided to move to the city and wants to find a place together. I freaked out. If i decide to continue with my current BF, how can i? if i do end up moving in with him, my ex will go insane, he will do crazy things and i'm just lost at this point, maybe i should just dissapear for a while and let them be. Hi, just to let you know that I am in a very similar situation as yourself, so you're not alone. I've even seen a psychic to find out if she could see my future, which she did. Anyway, your ex sounds like he has a few issues - quote - "my ex will go insane, he will do crazy things". This doesn't sound like someone you should be having a relationship with. Everyone makes mistakes, maybe your bf would forgive you? If he's willing to move to the city to be with you, then maybe he's willing to forgive? I found a web-site by accident, and it helped, unfortunately, I have forgotten the name of it. You make lists etc, and by the end of it, you should be able to make a decision. I haven't done it yet, so I don't know if it works. Make a wish list of everything you want from a man from looks to personality etc. Next, make a list of your ideal mate under the following categories/headings: LOOKS, PERSONALITY TRAITS, OTHER QUALITIES. Then make a list of your own personal qualities, divided into GOOD PERSONALITY TRAITS, OTHER GOOD QUALITIES, ACTIVITIES I CAN DO AND SPECIAL SKILLS I POSSESS. Then make a list of the bad things about yourself. After that, make a list of 5 things you don't like, but are willing to put up with for the right guy. Then five things you will not tolerate. Then list five things that you cannot live without. I hope these help, let me know how you get on, good luck!
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