Asked a Quirky Question

[kelagar]

My girlfriend and i of 18 months are deeply in love and have started taking things further. But recently she asked me to bite her onthe arm. So i did and she enjoyed it. Then she asked for it to be harder, even for bruising or blood. So i bit her harder and she got a little little bruise. She liked it. In a freaky way. I however are not turned on at all. And its a little scary for me, but i love her too much to dump her over this freaky experience. She wants more what do i say or do?

[Tankgirl]

I would say the term "quirky request' is waaaay too mild to describe this situation.

 

You are delving into a more masochistic/fetish realm here. Not that there's anything 'wrong' with that, if its within the realm of a caring relationship and done with caution. ....If you wish this relationship to succeed you will have to be open with your girlfriend. For her this may be just the tip of the iceberg and she may want to experiment farther in this type of behavior.

 

Bottom line. Where do YOU draw the line for yourself. What are YOU comfortable with.

 

All the best!

[Copingsaw]

You need to talk to her. If you can't have an honest conversation about just what this is all about, then there is a problem with your relationship. What she is asking for is definately out of the norm and you need to understand her motiviations and just how far she may want to take it. She needs to understand your discomfort with the situation. Don't wait for her to ask you to bite her ear off before you talk to her.

[fusangite]

Read some Dan Savage books. Many people have kinks that their partner only indulges out of consideration rather than actually getting off on them. If you're too actively repulsed by this, view this as a a simply concession you are making for the good of the relationship. Besides, do it enough times and your girlfriend may "owe" you a threesome.