tulip1989 Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 so i recently went on a trip to visit my bro, and a family friend of ours decided to tag along, so just us 3. I've previously slept with this girl about 6 months ago (she initiated it), which was kinda odd as we're old, old friends but was fun even so. I did ask her to hang out since but she kinda brushed it off, so I didn't try again. I was kinda anxious about seeing her but i figured she's the one who decided to come along with me and not vice versa, so nothing for me to bother worrying about. throughout the trip we were being kinda flirty, but also kinda reserved as there were only us 3 there, and my bro doesn't know that she and I have slept together. She was being really tactile (although she often is anyway), and much of the time would make these playful little digs at me. At one point she brought up the sex and we agreed that it just was what it was, a bit of fun. Later she chatted to a big group of guys by herself for about an hour, and when I went to grab her cos we were moving bars se said 'aah you're just jealous because i'm talking to other guys'. When we got back to the apartment I went over to the sofa she was on and tried to cuddle her/get close, but she wasn't having any of it. The next day she wasn't quite as flirty, but she told me I was in an 'annoying mood', and would disagree with everything i said, even saying she was deliberately doing it to annoy me. I was talking to my bro at one point and mentioned I had a date the next week. I don't know if I imagined it but after that she got kinda sulky, and started talking a lot about her exes, her type of guy etc. etc. and when we eventually parted ways she gave me a soft hug and an unenthusiastic goodbye, and ran off. I texted her after to say I had a great time and it was great to see her. she waited about a day before just sending me a thumbsup. I can't get the vibe here. I am attracted to her but we did agree that the past should be left in the past and we shouldn't stake our friendship on it. thoughts?
Grapesofwrath Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 I think she just likes the attention. Doesn't sound like she is interested in you in a real way, and some of the behavior is pretty immature. I'd leave it alone. No clear vibe present, as far as I can see.
Author tulip1989 Posted May 16, 2019 Author Posted May 16, 2019 I'm inclined to agree - i did think it was a bit peurile. I know just to ignore teasing like that or give it back, but after a while it just got kinda annoying. I thought the sulkiness was silly too. Just one q - what do you mean by 'any real way'? FYI this is something I could totally take or leave. I have no anxiety about losing touch with her as we're old friends, but If she's gona be silly and childish I should prob just ignore her, right?
smackie9 Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 It was a one time thing, she's probably trying to tell you that with her actions without being so forward about it. She just wants you to stay in the friends zone and not get anymore ideas.
chillii Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 Yeah , she's not interested , just immature and playing with you for a bit of ego stroking , hers.
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