Blanco Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 Maybe I'm a cynic or just getting too old (also in my thirties), but I don't think my partner being loving or "nice" would be enough for me if she refused to share basic household chores with me if we were living together. Maybe that's enough for OP, but if she stays in this and gets more rooted with this guy (marriage, family), I would be curious to know if she still felt that way a few years. 1
Versacehottie Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 I second what donnivan said: you two moved in for the wrong reasons. To save money and reduce commute???? Those are practical decisions not emotional and MOTIVATING ones of wanting to create a household and future together, based on love and similar life goals--if those are in order, I think there would be less of a problem with the household stuff. If it's an emotional decision, i.e. planning a future with someone, i think each of you would be more motivated to solve the problem and come to a compromise. Though it may be too late--i don't have the perfect 100% answer but you should work on the love/wanting a future together to inspire motivation. To be clear, that's on both parts. You should compromise some too yourself because he's not going to do everything the way you want and that's part of living together.
damni Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 We moved in together before I found out about the trip which was also a result of moving in together, me finding out stuff and more stuff. We have a year's worth of renting agreement to complete now. And we are trying to work our differences as much as possible. He keeps insisting that he loves me crazy and wants to have a future with me but he will never reach my expectations. Wow you got a keeper there. Good luck, you need it.
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