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Was I Played??? Do I Call??


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... but still obsessing about this girl, wondering if it is just because she is not available to me

 

It is. Once you walk down the aisle with her you won't be obsessing over her no more :laugh:

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Yeah bro stop wasting your time obesseing this chick and come off the cloud back down to earth... If you are having a good time with your ex why not work on that ? At least you have a chance with her.. You are wasting your time with this other chick.. its time to move on..

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Ideally yes .... but that is easier said than done!

 

I wish you all the strength to get over your obsession

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You have been rejected. The window of opportunity has closed; it sucks that you weren't aware of how little time it would be open for but there we are.

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well, she texted and emailed today.... i haven't responded yet... any advice?

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Be careful hon thats all

You do what your heart tells you to babe and i wish you all the best

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well, she texted and emailed today.... i haven't responded yet... any advice?
WTF!? I'm all out of advice. And ignore everything I have said up to now.
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Your choices are : She is smokin hot and you have fiery hot sex with her and then end it.

Do the NC dance and get her out of your mind and system. ( Read here how to do that )

 

Accept that you were a piece of booty to her and there is nothing more there than an occasional boot-tay call...

 

Please pick one of the above because its quite clear she just wanted to have hot sex with you mostly..not much else.

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What did she say when she txt and emailed you ??

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she just said hello, and that she was sorry she didn't get back earlier, said that she hoped i was well, and told me about school for a bit, and said she would talk to me soon... i still haven't responded.... i think i am going out of town for the weekend with the ex... not sure... but she is still haunting me... it kills me not to call her back, but i really donlt know what to say... i am tired of just getting pieces of her, she is always so vague.....i am sure i will break and call/text her soon....

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you were meat.... but you're gonna be minced meat if you don't get a grip of yourself. Go have fun with your ex. At least you're gettin' some :D

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Don't call her if you can manage that hon ... It's so clear she is not that into you but she likes the attention she gets from you

Do NC and you will soon see if she really likes you or not

 

Thats my advice but whatever you do i am here for an ear to bend

 

Good luck!!!!! :)

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But " don't " do NC to see if she comes back. Who would want someone back who has a screwed up head like that ?

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But " don't " do NC to see if she comes back. Who would want someone back who has a screwed up head like that ?

 

Cuz she's hot.

 

But anyway, I think she is just trying to bait you with random and vague information to see if you bite. So what I think will happen is that as soon as you reply or make a move...she'll suddenly start ignoring you again and then you'll feel even worse. I would continue to ignore her unless she shows definite interest in wanting to get together (or atleast gives you a call) instead of random texts about nothing.

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lol blue...yes, i think that has a lot to do with it.....she is hot... and the sex was hot!

 

but, i broke down and texted her about nothing last night and haven't heard back from her. I am going out of town with my ex this weekend, so I think I am going to just relax and enjoy that.

 

Though I think it really hurts my feelings that she at least doesn't feel the need to talk to me as a friend even. I used to know everything about her day to day life, and now things are so limited.

 

I think this rejection is fueling my obsession. And she is giving me just enough to keep it going. By the way, I don't know if I mentioned in any of these posts that I am a lesbian... hope that doesnt' change the advice you guys have been giving me... but thanks for the advice nonetheless :)

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that I am a lesbian... hope that doesnt' change the advice you guys have been giving me

only if she's not lesbian.

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I know how you feel. You sit and think 'sod it i will text and i dont care what happens' Then you text and get no reply and you feel like ****e and sit obsessing about why did you send it, why didnt she reply, am i THAT forgetable?

I know how you feel as i am in that situation and i cant get out of it right now no matter how much i try - I go out with my friends, visit family, work full time, have a son who keeps me busy and STILL i obsess about a guy who just is not worth my time and effort.

No Contact and time is all that will help but at THIS time it aint no comfort blanket to me.

Good luck hon hope it all works out well for you :)

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ok, this is a new update... i am back with my ex.... love her to death... have not talk to the "girl" since January.... but have really been tempted to call lately.....has it been long enough? Should i just ignore this feeling? She has called, texted and emailed, and I have ignored them all, because of my gf. What do i do now?

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you're being held at arms length.....basically, she's telling you (or not telling you) that if nothing better is around at any given time, you'll do. But she's definitely not thinking long term with you. If you can have fun and enjoy what you get, do that. If you can't, get away, or you'll just get hurt over and over again.

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reread your post from start to finish like I just did and put the feelings right out of your mind, it should be easier this time.

 

You love your gf to death enjoy that and leave it alone for your own sake.

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