samski3409 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 hey all, Some of you may know my story,but it's all the same if you don't.After almost three months of NC,just when I'm starting to feel good,she contacts me.It happened last night and while I'm having this girl that I'm seeing stay over.The night was going well,l i was hanging with a girl that I'm just starting to get into when i receive this text " i hope class was good ...i'm really missing you tonight.i love you" Damn her for doing this to me.for making me think about her when she is the last person i want to think about. receiving that almost ruined my night and it sucks that she still has that power over my emotions. the only good thing about it was that i was with someone at the time so responding was totally out of the question.but today I'm going a bit nuts about the whole thing. i don't know guys... i just had to vent
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Yeah, exes have a habit of reappearing just when you're with someone new and are moving on... almost like some sixth sense. Ever seen the movie "Swingers"?
Author samski3409 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 that movie is so true! they freaking know just when to pop up and f*ck with your head. the thing is she'll never know how much that messed me up because I'm going to try my hardest not to respond!! but damn it's so hard not to!!
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 but damn it's so hard not to!! Well, you could leave her hanging for a couple of days, then text back a bright and breezy "sorry I didn't reply earlier... busy this end... lots of fun things to do" etc. It'll make her grind her teeth Would you want her back btw?
JS17 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 the thing is she'll never know how much that messed me up because I'm going to try my hardest not to respond!! but damn it's so hard not to!! Don't respond!!! Living well is the best revenge You've been doing so well lately, you know you'll only mess that up and bring yourself back to square one if you do respond. If you really have the urge, write a letter or email and send it to yourself. Then you'll fix your urge without having to talk to her. Keep it up kiddo
Author samski3409 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 i really would even after all the crap. i still love this girl,but I've given her plenty of chances in the past to make things right. she just wants to string me along and know that I'm here.when it comes down to it she always says the same stuff and never wants to actually be with me.
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 i really would even after all the crap. i still love this girl,but I've given her plenty of chances in the past to make things right. she just wants to string me along and know that I'm here.when it comes down to it she always says the same stuff and never wants to actually be with me. That sucks. Don't give her the chance again. I'd still do the breezy text tho. JS17 is right that living well is the best revenge, but letting her see that is even funnier.
Author samski3409 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 i swear this is the only thing on my mind now.I'm totally distracted by it and i can't even concentrate on work the way i should be!! i was doing so well these last few weeks too!
kscholze Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 samski, ur back! That sucks man. The same thing keeps happening to you.
Author samski3409 Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 i know man!! but at least i can say i have yet to give in to the temptation to make contact with her. it's really tough though because it still messes me up to hear from her.i guess that's how i know I'm not ready to have any kind of relationship with her whether it be casual or otherwise.
kscholze Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 yup, my ex contacted me on tuesday, and I haven't gotten back to her. I really want to today though. It was the first day that I said f*** it and was having a good day, then BAM text from the ex. I want to text her right now
unsafe Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Dont exes have the worst timing?!!!!!! Like all the other replies I will tell you to not respond. Keep moving forward. If she really wanted you she would be there with you right now. No matter what...she would be there. When you love someone you can't let go unless you have to like in your case. You had to..She didn't. Just remember that. There are the occational story where people broke up and get back together and it works out. But there are trust issues and most likely it doesn't work out. Just go with the girls you have I bet they have allot to offer and maybe these ones wont leave you. Good Luck! it was broken for a reason. You can love her and care about her doesn't mean you have be with her or talk to her or even have her in your life.
In Sync Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Yeah the ex's have theworst timing..but dude you're telling us on this thread you were hanging with a girl you are starting to like and you are going to toss that good opportunity aside to you to walk back into the crap you had! If you allow your ex to screw you up for a second...I'm sorry to this but YOU ARE TOTALLY ASKING FOR IT. You are one the few who are lucky to pick up and move on and EVEN MEET SOMEBODY YOU LIKE and just because the person who broke your heart ..shall I repeat that....who broke your heart...called you are going to let that ex disrupt your good "thang"! SOMEBODY PLEASE EXPLAIN THIS TO ME???
smile95 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 i just posted about this happening to me! It is like they have radar when we get stronger!
unsafe Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Thats the truth..they don't want you to let go of them. They need you as a back up. So when they feel like to much time has passed without contact..or they realize the relationship they wanted to work out isn't they come back to you. Its the back up plan. Alot of people have it. I have learned my ex just can't be alone. Even when I was with him he kept in contact with the ex here and there. I found out way to late. But now I know. Granted who wants to be alone. Who doesn't want to be in love and share their life with someone. But you have to remember not to settle. Just because at this moment you have nothing else.
Super89Rex Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 LOL is that actually true? When your down and out, and miserable they will never come back; only when you start to get happy again? Wow that radar thing seems crazy.
smile95 Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I know it seems odd, but it happens to me EVERYTIME! Nothing scientific, just happens that way. Mostly I think////when you are relly getting over them, you do not call or email or anything and that sets off a flag to them......
kscholze Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 same here. I was on nc for about a week and last night I met these 2 girls and was having a great time, then my ex txtd me and said "u mad at me" after that she said she is having trouble with her BF. I told her that I dont want to hear that ****. then she said "sorry baby" WTF does she want from me????????????????????
Author samski3409 Posted September 24, 2005 Author Posted September 24, 2005 You are one the few who are lucky to pick up and move on and EVEN MEET SOMEBODY YOU LIKE and just because the person who broke your heart ..shall I repeat that....who broke your heart...called you are going to let that ex disrupt your good "thang"! SOMEBODY PLEASE EXPLAIN THIS TO ME??? If i could really explain or understand how this girl still has the power to do this to me i wouldn't need to be posting on here. it's just one of those things man. I've been through a few break up in my time and none of them have had the same effects on me as this one.i was and still am in love with my ex.that being said i know i have to move on because she obviously doesn't have that same love for me. So after a tough day spent contemplating and over analyzing some inane text message from this girl,i stuck to my convictions and did not respond to her. I actually did have a nice night:went out in the city with some good friends,had some great conversations with random cute women and got my drink on a bit.best of all i made it through the day and temptations to respond to my ex.i thinks it's starting to get a little easier as the days go by.
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