LoobyLouLou Posted May 13, 2019 Posted May 13, 2019 I met a guy on a dating app beginning of this year. We talked a while and then he asked me out. We went on a date and had a good time. I liked him and he liked me, because he asked me out again and I said yes. So we texted once we got home and he asked if the next day was too soon and I said the next day would be better as he had told me he had things to do the day after our first date. We met for 2nd time which was good again, this time ending with a kiss. Anyway, we texted each day. Each day went by, no 3rd date asking out. In the end I was still waiting to the weekend and so I asked him out. He said yes straightaway and off we went to have another good date. My point is, every date we went on was when I asked him out. In the 2 months we dated, he only asked me out the 1st 2 times, I did the rest. I don't understand why he never asked me out again after the 2nd time??? He always texted in the evenings but never mentioned when we would see each other next. Then started the subject of working late/home working/job stress, etc. So we couldn't see each other in the week. He had family commitments at weekends. The times we saw each other got less and less. The once eager to accept my invitations were practically gone. Towards the end we saw each other once every 2 weeks. Then of course the texting got less. I asked him to something and straightaway he replied couldn't - had to work. Then I thought I would stop texting to see if he would continue to but it just went quiet. That was weeks ago. I was devastated of course. I just would like to know why he stopped asking me out after the 2nd time, what were his tactics? What was all that about? I have never heard of a guy playing the game that way? Was he seeing other women when I assumed it was just me, as we had gone to the next stage in our relationship? Then of course, there was the slow fade away where he never had the courage or decently to tell me that was it. Why was he such a coward, selfish? That hurts, especially after what we did together. I don't believe he had work issues. Thank you for any opinions or views on this.
r2323 Posted May 13, 2019 Posted May 13, 2019 (edited) You both went on dates for a couple of months...that doesn't mean that a relationship was established. All it means is you both spent a couple of months trying to determine the compatibility between you both, of which apparently there isn't any. He could have been working, he could have been dating around and didn't want to tell you. Either way it sounds like he's not as interested in you as your are in him. Some people just fade away rather than come out and say they're not interested. Edited May 13, 2019 by r2323 1
d0nnivain Posted May 13, 2019 Posted May 13, 2019 He didn't ask because he didn't have to. You did all the work for him. Whether he concluded you were not enough of a challenge or he was never that attracted in the 1st place but you didn't know how to day no only he could answer. He never will. Sorry. Put him in your rear view mirror & take a less "take charge" approach with your next relationship. Sometimes no matter how excruciating, you have to sit back & let them come to you. 2
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