Mrin Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 Thanks Bailey and Roxy. What I don't get is why reschedule? Why not cancel without mentioning rescheduling or ghost at this point? To keep me on the backburner I guess. Because maybe he really is sick? 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 Thanks Bailey and Roxy. What I don't get is why reschedule? Why not cancel without mentioning rescheduling or ghost at this point? To keep me on the backburner I guess. I admire people who can multi-date. I find it really hard but need to make a conscious effort to try it out properly. I find with first dates I come away either not interested, or interested enough to then concentrate only on that person. Maybe I need to expand my emotional investment bandwidth yes you answered your own question. to put you on the back burner and/or also they think its nicer than canceling smh. some guys can be cowardly about bluntly saying I dont want to go or dont feel like going or dont want to talk anymore one-itus is one of the biggest issues women have in dating. you dont want to focus on a guy unless he is your exclusive boyfriend. because more than likely they are not only focusing on you like that until they agree to be your exclusive boyfriend. or at the very least dont focus on them unless they are showing you that they are focusing on you. I personally would only focus on a guy before exclusivity if he is calling everyday and seeing me on both off days I have set aside to go on dates. because I wouldnt have time to talk to anybody else. he killed the competition on his own investment lol. he is acting like a boyfriend before even becoming a boyfriend. and usually thats how guys who become your boyfriend act before exclusivity. so focus on men who do that only. anything less doesnt deserve your focus. 1
Curiousroxy86 Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 And then just as I posted that he texted me saying he misses me. FML. Paranoid that he uses this forum now hahaha yea its no need to initiate with men. if they want to contact you trust me they will.
elaine567 Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 What I don't understand either is that if you know him well enough to go away for a weekend together, how come you don't know him well enough to drop by his house and see how sick he really is? You are sitting there initiating +++ and expecting him to ghost on you, which shows the true level of your relationship, yet you arranged to spend the week-end with him. Why sell yourself cheap?
Author Pepsi38 Posted May 17, 2019 Author Posted May 17, 2019 What I don't understand either is that if you know him well enough to go away for a weekend together, how come you don't know him well enough to drop by his house and see how sick he really is? You are sitting there initiating +++ and expecting him to ghost on you, which shows the true level of your relationship, yet you arranged to spend the week-end with him. Why sell yourself cheap? We weren't going away, he was going to spend the weekend in my town, this was how we normally spent time, he came to me for a weekend or I went to him. This one was arranged when we last saw each other and when everything seemed ok - it was only after I saw him that I started to suspect again, hence this post. We live 90 minutes apart so I can't just 'drop by his house' - even if I could, turning up unannounced to check on him is a bit too crazy even by my standards Anyway, I've already decided (whether it's true if he really is ill or not) that this is dead in the water and so I'll have to learn from it and move on.
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