djrdei Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Well my g/f and I have know eachother for about 2 years now. we have spent a lot of time together and really enjoy being with eachother. Heres the problem...... She just began college at the same school I attend. I am a senior and I commute..20 miles...to and from school and she is staying there in the dorms. Everything has been well the last four weeks, we have had a great time together. I see her a few times a week during the day but i am only able to spend time with her on wed and thus nights but I have gone to see her on the weekends also. But the real problem began on Monday.... My friend...who is also a friend of hers told her that she needs to become more social at school. She gave me this news during lunch on Monday and I just didnt pay any mind to it. Later on Monday I had a personal problem that really bothered me and i was very upset. I talked to her on the phone Monday night about what was bothering me.(the personal problem has nothing to do with our relationship in any way) On Tuesday I had the chance to see her around lunch time due to a class cancelation, at the time i was still rather disturbed and all i wanted was to talk to her. I called her and told her i wanted to speak to her in person and she got very mad because i was interfering with her lunch plans with some new friends.....i guess she felt that she was told to make friends so it had to be right then and there. I got upset that she wasnt willing to compermise to see me and we had a huge argument. Wed night i was able to spend time with her and everything seemed ok. Thursday night just didnt go well. Her and I got into it over something very stupid.... As I tried to talk to her about it she told me that she feels like she needs to go make friends, she needs to be social and that i need to chill out. Later in the discussion she told me that these girls who she just began to hang out with this week told her that I am too controling towards her. Its just hard that I dont get to see her much and now she has informed me that she really doesnt enjoy me touchin her and trying to be playful anymore.... but before she always wanted me on her. I told her that I can not go without being like we use to be, i enjoyed doing what we did. I just feel like we fell apart this week. I really love her and I can not see myself with anyone else. She just gave me the impression that i am the reason that she has a limited social life. I just dont know what to do.....it all went down hill so quickly sorry for the long post......i just have a lot on my mind.
questionsforyall Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 as long as she isnt hanging out with other guys u should be ok try to tough up and wait until next week before doing something crazy. and if you can try to find out when shes with her new friends and go buy her a flower and bring it to her infront of her new friends then say something ala well i hope you guys have a good time! then and excuse yourself to go do something you like doing. her friends will be all oooo and ull be the man n stuff if possible...
Author djrdei Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 Its just the fact that these girls never met me and only talked to my g/f a few times and the told her im too controling when im sure they did not understand the personal problem that i was faced with at the time.
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