PeanutButter88 Posted May 6, 2019 Posted May 6, 2019 Hello LoveShack community I’m currently dating since 4 years my boyfriend. I have seen his family multiple times (aunts, uncles, grandparents included). However, he has only seen my parents and siblings. The rest of my family live in Asia and we are in the US. As such meeting is a bit complicated. We now have 2 weddings falling on the same dates. One from a colleague of his. One from someone from my family. I would like him to come with me to the family wedding as I would like to introduce him to my family too and traveling there is not in the near future aprt for the wedding. On the other hand, he says that he cannot go because he answered his colleague that he would go to his wedding (even though at the time we knew that there was a probability my family wedding would land on the same date). What are your opinions? From my side, I am hurt because I feel he is giving more importance to colleague he has known for a short while rather than meeting my family which is something important to me. Help!
GorillaTheater Posted May 6, 2019 Posted May 6, 2019 I suspect he doesn't care that much about his colleague's wedding. I think it's more likely that he's either afraid to meet your extended family, or he doesn't want to pay for an overseas trip, or both. 1
d0nnivain Posted May 6, 2019 Posted May 6, 2019 The enormity of meeting your whole family on an oversees trip is too much for him. He knows that is shows up at this there will be questions about when you two will get engaged & there will be expectations.
FMW Posted May 6, 2019 Posted May 6, 2019 I'm not sure what to think. Is there a business reason that he feels makes it necessary to attend the colleagues wedding? Do you think GorillaTheater is right, do you think he's just avoiding meeting your family?
Author PeanutButter88 Posted May 7, 2019 Author Posted May 7, 2019 Thank you all for your answers! I met all his extended family. He had nonissue there. From my family side he knows there is zero wedding expectstion norntalks. We are pretty laid back. For the travel costs, he always said there was nonissue as we woukd takenthis opportunity to also visit.
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