Author mejustme Posted May 6, 2019 Author Posted May 6, 2019 How does she know so many details of what is going on in his life if it's not because they had conversations about it? All she listed he spoke to her about it. He could easily have kept the court case secret to her, he didn't and he shared all the details about how much and the car situation and all. OP even said the court case has many details she's not gonna get into, sounds to me he's been pretty good at communicating what's on his mind. . I just wanted to say, thank you for being so open minded with this. Also, I did receive a text from him this am, and I am both concerned and and relieved to hear this. "Hey cutie, just a heads up I’m going to the doctor this morning my blood pressure’s been high now from most a week I can feel it I haven’t been feeling all right just want to give you heads up" This of course may explain a lot. He did make mention when we first started dating that he has had a slight issue in the past with elavated blood pressure, but it wasn't anything too alarming. I am sure with all of the stress he has been under lately it is elavated yet again. Just goes to show that one should not jump to conclusions too quickly. I know my mind wandered a bit, but at least I didn't act on my thoughts. Thanks for listening and getting me through this : )
BaileyB Posted May 6, 2019 Posted May 6, 2019 (edited) Is he on blood pressure meds? Because, if he is it is my understanding that they can significantly affect sex drive/sexual performance. As someone who is dating a divorced man with an ex-wife and a child for whom he is paying child support, I will honestly say that I wouldn’t be dating him if he didn’t have good boundaries with his ex and minimal drama in his life. We actually dated for a while, took a break because he needed to get things settled down with his ex and stable for his son, before we reconnected and we have now been dating for thee years. Yes, this guy has lots of baggage but what his ex-wife and daughter are trying to do is emotional manipulation. And, that’s not acceptable. In no way should a child be emotionally blackmailing her father because he refuses to buy her a car... that is some sense of entitlement there. I have to wonder if you are only getting one side of the story... but, if this is true then he need to have better boundaries with his ex-wife and daughter. Only he can resolve these issues and he needs to do that if he hopes to have any kind of a happy future with you. If you do hang in, don’t stay too long if this continues... the first few months of your relationship is your time to decide if you are compatible or whether the relationship is worth investing in long term. There is more to compatibility than “he a great guy and we really get along well...” Edited May 6, 2019 by BaileyB
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