wendy_tina Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I've been married and divorced 3 times over that time but in touch with him.. and only in love with him... more to tell..I'm tired... I've spent a lifetime of wishing it was him next to me ... seeing him 4 times a year one week at a time hurts more than anything...
whichwayisup Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 30 years and only seeing him 4 times a year? 3 divorces and this man is still in your blood?? Maybe it is really time to say goodbye and move on. If he hasn't ended his marriage to be with you after 30 years, sorry to say this, but that says alot. I don't know your story obviously, since this is your first post but I can already you're in ALOT of pain. The thing is, is he worth all this pain? For the few times you actually get to see/spend time with him, is it worth it?
newbby Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 You wasted your life. Her life isnt over yet.
RecordProducer Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Wow! That is just so romantic! You could sell your story to some write like Danielle Steel. I don't think you've wasted your life. You've had three marriages and love during these 30 years. Many people haven't experienced that. To live and dreams and ilusions is often much betetr and easier than to live a cruel reality. I am pretty sure if he were your husband you wouldn't have been so happy with him. If he didn't marry you, he knows something that you don't. You only know the side that he presents to you. In any case, you are right. It's time to move on. If you left him 25 years ago, he wouldn't have been in your mind now.
lynnered Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I've been married and divorced 3 times over that time but in touch with him.. and only in love with him... more to tell..I'm tired... I've spent a lifetime of wishing it was him next to me ... seeing him 4 times a year one week at a time hurts more than anything... so what are U wanting ? to leave him ?a way to get him? has he said he would leave ? does he know how U feel?have U ever tried NC? sorry for all the questions but your post is really breif:)
Lipsarered Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I have to hear more about your story. Is he married as well? Why would you continue to marry other men if you only want him?
RecordProducer Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Obviously because she realized that he would never leave his wife so she tried to move on, but kept going back to him once in a while because she was in love with him.
naiagara Posted September 24, 2005 Posted September 24, 2005 I've been in this situation for 3 years and I feel your pain, But 30 yrs? How didi you manage? That is painfull and amazing. I feel scared that I maybe end up like that.
JayKay Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 I'm sorry, but that doesn't sound like love to me. It sounds like masochism. It sounds like self-inflicted pain and suffering. I am wondering why this poster allows herself to live in so much unhappiness?
RecordProducer Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I'm sorry, but that doesn't sound like love to me. It sounds like masochism. I also agree with that. Love often leads to masochism. That's why she acted against herself, because she loved him. She should have cut him off 30 years ago.
Naive Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I've been married and divorced 3 times over that time but in touch with him.. and only in love with him... more to tell..I'm tired... I've spent a lifetime of wishing it was him next to me ... seeing him 4 times a year one week at a time hurts more than anything... Why would you put up with that...for 30 years?
Fritz Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 Why would you put up with that...for 30 years? Indeed, and why put 3 men through the ringer of marriage and divorce if one still cares about the married bastard who cheats on his wife. Its called being a selfish masochist.
Woggle Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I have no sympathy for men or women who date married people and then complain about how much it hurts.
newbby Posted September 26, 2005 Posted September 26, 2005 I have no sympathy for men or women who date married people and then complain about how much it hurts. Great!! but this thread isnt about you.
kkat Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 I have no sympathy for men or women who date married people and then complain about how much it hurts. Really? Then do you think you can be helpful on this forum? The issue here really isn't how she got into the bad situation she's in - it's about how to support her need and efforts to address it, deal with it, resolve it, and hopefully avoid it going forward.
RecordProducer Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 Great!! but this thread isnt about you. Well Woggle makes every thread he steps into about himself! The word "I" is his favorite one.
Grinning Maniac Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 RP...the fact that you actually consider this "romantic" says a lot. That statement (among others...) was far stranger than anything Woggle has said recently. Romantic? Give me a break... I think you misspelled "ridiculous". "Romantic" implies it's something one should envy. You couldn't pay me enough money to chase after some broad I couldn't have for 30 years. That's insane. At the youngest, she's 46. But I'm guessing somewhere closer to 60. I have to agree with Woggle here...this truly is a waste. It's like the gambler who's going to walk out of the casino at the end of the night with nothing. They may have gotten a few "jackpots" here and there, but in the end...nada. Why in the world would you stick around so long for so little? I personally give you license to drive a remote-controlled Buick loaded with C-4 into this guy's living room. Yeesh.
erika2610 Posted September 27, 2005 Posted September 27, 2005 I have no sympathy for men or women who date married people and then complain about how much it hurts. Why say anything at all? If you don't have anything productive to say, then just don't say it.
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