guest569 Posted May 14, 2019 Posted May 14, 2019 However, today he posted something on my wall on Facebook. I had told him on our get together than Resse's peanut butter cups were my favorite candy, and he posted some bogus research about how it can cause cancer. What the hell? What a negative and gullible douche lol.
MaleIntuition Posted May 14, 2019 Posted May 14, 2019 What the hell? What a negative and gullible douche lol. Overreacting much..? We already knew he had some weak social skills... Few men are looking for platonic friendships with girls though. He clearly has some interest, why else would he even bother to do this? The interest might not be high, but seriously, OP hasn’t been that encouraging either. 3
elaine567 Posted May 14, 2019 Posted May 14, 2019 He's 55 and yes some 55yos are into texting but many aren't, as they never grew up thinking texting was the be all and end all. He seems to be more comfortable on SM, I guess that is how he communicates.
Author mortensorchid Posted May 14, 2019 Author Posted May 14, 2019 Whatever the case may be the trail went cold. I tried reaching out to him, he didn't follow up. It's done.
guest569 Posted May 15, 2019 Posted May 15, 2019 Overreacting much..? We already knew he had some weak social skills... No. Not at all. I stand by my comment.
MaleIntuition Posted May 15, 2019 Posted May 15, 2019 No. Not at all. I stand by my comment. Okey. Still; it was him reaching out. OP ignored it and took it as an insult because she interpret a relatively neutral action from a pessimistic standpoint. 1
Author mortensorchid Posted May 15, 2019 Author Posted May 15, 2019 People, it's what it is. It has nothing to do with anyone's comments on this thread. He was/is just not interested in taking things further. He may be sitting there asking himself why we are not communicating, but it's because of his bad skills communicating with me. 1
Highndry Posted May 15, 2019 Posted May 15, 2019 A guy who's interested will show it. I don't beat around the bush and make small talk on social media or through text. I am straightforward: "Hi, would you like to go to ------- with me on Saturday?" Anything other than that sort of thing from a guy is lukewarm interest. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted May 15, 2019 Posted May 15, 2019 Exactly. This guy isn't making it happen. End of story. She's smart to move on.
guest569 Posted May 15, 2019 Posted May 15, 2019 Okey. Still; it was him reaching out. OP ignored it and took it as an insult because she interpret a relatively neutral action from a pessimistic standpoint. He hasn't actually made any proper contact aside from the "research" about how peanut butter cups are the devil. the text "Evening" is 100x better than that garbage. 1
JuneL Posted May 15, 2019 Posted May 15, 2019 He hasn't actually made any proper contact aside from the "research" about how peanut butter cups are the devil. the text "Evening" is 100x better than that garbage. ^^^ This. It’s very rude to post something like that on another person’s fb wall, even if the research wasn’t fake. Would you post research about the harms of smoking on the fb walls of your friends who are smokers? 1
Acacia98 Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 The overanalysis of the "Evening" really cracked me up. And it also reminded me of why I usually don't seek advice from folks while dating. People will have you questioning even the way you breathe and turn you into a nervous wreck. And it may turn out that the person you're dating actually likes you the way you are. Dating is not supposed to be so complicated that just saying "Hi" or "Evening" as an initial greeting should be an immediate turnoff. The only way a one-word greeting would turn me off personally would be if I knew the person to be one of those people who put in minimal effort and left the rest of the "work" to me or if I really really didn't like the person in the first place. I tend to think someone who was actually interested would respond to the "Evening" with a greeting of their own and a normal conversation would organically grow out of that.
Acacia98 Posted May 16, 2019 Posted May 16, 2019 Okey. Still; it was him reaching out. OP ignored it and took it as an insult because she interpret a relatively neutral action from a pessimistic standpoint. I actually thought it might have been an attempt at humor on his part. 1
guest569 Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 The overanalysis of the "Evening" really cracked me up. And it also reminded me of why I usually don't seek advice from folks while dating. People will have you questioning even the way you breathe and turn you into a nervous wreck. And it may turn out that the person you're dating actually likes you the way you are. Dating is not supposed to be so complicated that just saying "Hi" or "Evening" as an initial greeting should be an immediate turnoff. The only way a one-word greeting would turn me off personally would be if I knew the person to be one of those people who put in minimal effort and left the rest of the "work" to me or if I really really didn't like the person in the first place. I tend to think someone who was actually interested would respond to the "Evening" with a greeting of their own and a normal conversation would organically grow out of that. I take your point but I tend not to engage in slow moving text conversations like that. To me, a one word greeting text after a fun first date just seems lazy and does not indicate much interest. How about 'Evening, I had a lovely time last night. It was nice to meet you!'. I am not saying that 'Evening' was the death of this budding romance. Would just expect something more substantial. As for the peanut butter cups 'research', I hadn't thought of it as a sarcastic humour thing. Maybe? 1
fishlips Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 Maybe he just wanted a booty call and dropped you because you didn't give that to him. I don't see any harm in texting him and asking if he wants to go out again. The worst he can say is "no" and it's no big deal if he does.
JuneL Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 I actually thought it might have been an attempt at humor on his part. It could well be. But why would he do this openly on her fb wall?
MaleIntuition Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 ^^^ This. It’s very rude to post something like that on another person’s fb wall, even if the research wasn’t fake. Would you post research about the harms of smoking on the fb walls of your friends who are smokers? It’s very very unlikely that his intentions were to be rude. The context of the post was probably more along the line of: “Hey, I saw this and was reminded of you; apparently you will die in cancer any day now! ” The opposite of interest in indeference not rudeness. 1
JuneL Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 It’s very very unlikely that his intentions were to be rude. The context of the post was probably more along the line of: “Hey, I saw this and was reminded of you; apparently you will die in cancer any day now! ” The opposite of interest in indeference not rudeness. See, he should have just sent exactly the above over text, if that’s his intention. If his social skills are so lacking at the age of 55, then I don’t think it’s OP’s loss.
Timshel Posted May 17, 2019 Posted May 17, 2019 The context of the post was probably more along the line of: “Hey, I saw this and was reminded of you; apparently you will die in cancer any day now! ” /QUOTE] Lol, that's funny! I think you did funny better than MO's Reeses guy. To be fair, you've had more time to think about it. 2
guest569 Posted May 18, 2019 Posted May 18, 2019 If his social skills are so lacking at the age of 55, then I don’t think it’s OP’s loss. Exactly, it could have been funny but it wasn't in the slightest. If he was 12 I would try to make excuses for him.
Acacia98 Posted May 22, 2019 Posted May 22, 2019 It could well be. But why would he do this openly on her fb wall? I have no idea. Maybe his social skills are not great and he's not good at gauging what's appropriate. But I would honestly just think of him as an awkward guy. Not a malicious guy.
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