Text communication

[Boo2611]

Not necessarily. He may leave the texting & other social media to those people who don't get the investment of his time & presence. You get the good dates so he doesn't have to be as focused with his in between contacts with you. Yes, some is required but not constant.

 

If his communications style bothers you, discuss a compromise with him.

 

When DH & I 1st got together the way he wrote out cards for special occasions drove me nuts. He'd sign the card with his name. That was it. No date. No Dear D0nnivain. No Love DH. Just his name. My visceral reaction to that was over the top to such a petty thing but it bugged me. I harped on him until he "learned" to write a card with a date, a salutation, & a valediction. Yes I'm a grammar nerd. His own mother told me not to bother trying to change him. I kept at it & eventually he started to sign cards properly.

 

If you want to change the parameters, speak up & talk to him about it.

 

 

Thanks for your reply its a very sensible way to look at things. Guess its just confusing behaviour, generally at this stage you're still quite excited to hear from each other and I just found it odd that that doesn't seem to be the case... which has kind of dulled it for me if I'm honest.

I'll carry on as can't fault him when we are together, I just cant shake this niggle of is this guy actually looking for a relationship or does it suit him to see me a couple of times a week (resulting in one thing) with little maintenance in between..who knows haha!

[Boo2611]

Agreed. This is honestly something I have struggled with since I started dating. I am forward with the women that I date about my dislike of texting but it doesn't seem to deter issues. I don't ignore texts for days on end but I also don't have drawn out conversations either. This seems to pose a problem for many women. I've told many of them that I'm more than happy to have a conversation over the phone at night about the day but most find that strange...

 

 

 

I certainly don't text a lot or chase at all. But here you have confirmed that texting is not your thing but you do offer an alternative of a nice chat on the phone later that day. Most women I think including myself would be happy with that as it shows you have the desire to interact.. A happy medium

[Amethyst68]

If you don't text him does he contact you out just wait till the next time you text or try to contact him some other way?

[Boo2611]

If you don't text him does he contact you out just wait till the next time you text or try to contact him some other way?

 

Hi he actually responded to a text I sent at 11am yesterday morning 6 hours later - ok not a crime but his reponse was a 3 word text that didn't warrant a reply from me. what I found is that he then went on to text me a further 2 times between 6 and 8pm I assume because I hadn't replied. (I was genuinely busy). So yes if I don't answer he does text me and tends to ramp it up a little which makes me think he is aware that he is doing it perhaps.