ScionaraTC Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 I need some really good advice...I am deadly confused. Well, to start it off, we both met on an online dating site. Right when we started talking on IM that day, she said "is it crazy that i want to meet you?" I was really excited because we both had a lot in common. Well after we talked on IM, we met for dinner 2 days later. Very nervous while I was waiting for her, when she pulled up, I had a huge grin on my face, she gets out of the car and I was speechless. she looked amazing. i then proceeded to give her a dozen pink roses. she was shocked and i believe she liked them. Dinner was great, great convos, after dinner we took a nice walk, first date lasted nearly 4 1/2 hrs. Well, it was time to go, i walked her to her car. i thanked her for a wonderful night, and she said the same. i then proceeded to give her a hug, and we hugged for about 5 seconds. Next day, I am at work, i receive a text message on my phone from her saying once again she had a great time, and she said we should meet up again. Well the very next week(same day thursday) we were back down at the same location, but this time, we saw a movie instead. Wedding Crashers was the choice, and pretty good one, we laughed and had occasional talks throughout the movie. During the movie i kept feeling her foot bumping into my foot on the ground...i just brushed it off. We have been on a total of 4 dates in 4 weeks...this past date we had was a litte akward. on sunday we both agreed to do something on tuesday because we were both busy over the weekend. so tuesday rolls around and we are back down at the same location, i pull in and she is already there, she gets out gives me a big smile and asks me how i am doing. i give her a big smile back and say good you...etc etc. i gave her a compliment right before we walked in "you look cute tonight" she was wearing jeans and a long sleeve shirt, just something made me say it and i did, after i said it she turned her head at me and said "thank you, i like your outfit, and your shoes" said it with a smile on her face and a faint giggle. We're sitting down at the table, she gets up tells me what she wants to drink, while she was gone for some reason i was nervous about tonight just because 4 days ago she told me she "just wanted to be friends for now" because I am going to Arizona for school. She comes back, sits down and is leaning forward and i am doing the same, and we are having great convos, we are smiling at each other. at one point in the dinner, i felt her foot brush up my foot and leg, and she goes "was that your leg?!?" with a smile on her face, i look at her and smile "yeah that was" she apologized and i said dont worry about it, with a laugh. Now that's the 2nd time she has done that? Through dinner I did this thing where i starred at her in the eyes then smilied and looked down at my cell phone, when i glanced up from my cell phone she was doing the same thing(looking down at her cell phone). It seemed throughout the night she mimic'd 3 things i did. the cell phone, looking into my eyes and smiled, and when i put my hand/elbow on the table she did the same thing. Well it was nearing the end, and we both had to work in the morning, but she said "do you want to go walk around till about 9?" I go "yeah I would like that" gave a smile, got up and she said "i will be right back, bathroom break" so im waiting, she comes out with a smile on her face and says "ready?!" i go "yeah, here's your purse"...well this is where it got akward and where i am getting confused... during our walk she was walking with her arms crossed or her arms to the side, i was walking with mine to the side or my hands in my pockets, after walking around we sat down at the same bench, and this time she had her legs crossed facing out, and her arms crossed, right when i saw that i knew that wasnt a good thing. i sat there confused, but there was no dead silence, we still had good talks. when we were walking back to the cars, i gave her a one arm hug and said "thank you for tonight" right after i put my arm back down and she looked at me and said "thank you i had a great time" We get to the cars, i was standing there and i did not know what to do. she was behind her car door while we were talking, she gets in, i tell her to drive safely and to call me when she got home so i knew she got home ok, she then told me "how about you call me when you get home so i know you get home ok because you live further from here" i agreed, smilied, reached my hand through the window, shook her hand in a friendly manner, but she seemed to squeeze mine a lil harder than i squeezed hers. Right now I am just really confused. I do not know what to do. she knows i have our next "date" planned and she said "i will work around that day so we can do it"...well, i am just afraid that when i am out in arizona for a year TOPS (but i am coming home for XMAS/New Yrs) that she may find another guy to "date" or set "accuaintences" with. She is 24 and I am 21, and we both are really mature, and we both know what we want in life. She has a great job, and i am going to school to get a better job (i work for a crap airliner right now). So girls/guys...am I doing good? bad? where should i like improve on? it seems i have her attention, but i just dont know that for sure...are there any signs i should really be looking for? Sorry for long post, but i need help so i thought i would explain our first month of "dates" so i could get better advice. Thanks in advanced Zach
mixwell Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Dude !! She "accidently" bumped her leg into you 2 times.. Thats a total sign that she wants you !! you are in man !! read this http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove_150/185b_relationship_expert.html There are alot of articles on askmen.com you can read.. Seriously though she copied about 3 things you did as well !! This chicks interest level in you is very high !! Its about time you move in for the kiss !! Its already been 4 dates !! You have to pay more attention to her actions bro !! ANyways let me know what you think after reading the article !! Take care!!! next day is the kiss for sure !! haha -Peace
PurpleAngel Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 It sounds like you are very worried about what is going on. Sitting in that confusion is not a very nice place. Relax a little and remember you always have yourself. Anyway to answer your questions, for starters just be true to yourself and you are doing the right thing. I think you are obsessing a little too much about everything. Don’t worry if her arms are crossed, don’t judge it, you can’t possibly know why her arms are crossed. It might have nothing to do with you. I also think you expect too much, if you are away for one year you cannot expect that nothing will happen, also for you. I know that at 21 you think you know what you want but I truly believe, through experience, that we are constantly growing and changing. Don’t limit yourself by saying that. Just believe that you know what you want now. Tomorrow is another day. My only advice to you is, stay cool, don’t loss yourself in someone else. This is what it sounds like is happening. If you constantly think about ‘why she is doing something’ or ‘what must she fee’, or ‘l how can I change to have her’ you have lost yourself. Where is there room for you or your needs. I know this might be hard to understand but if you pin all your energy on why she has her arms crossed for example or what will happen in the future you lose everything about this moment within yourself. I hope some or all of this makes sense. Good luck. Stay positive. Stay True!
Author ScionaraTC Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 I try not to get really far in depth in thinking about what's going on. Its so funny you say all that Purple, my best friend who is a girl, said almost exactly the same thing you just now said. I do believe I look too far into things, and I am working on that. Thank you for the advice Purple, I will start to calm down and stay cool. Your right tomorrow is just another day.
mixwell Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 I have to disagree with the poster that said: "Don’t worry if her arms are crossed, don’t judge it" Girls show their interest with their bodys.. arms and/or legs crossed could mean she was just cold or its a way females close up when they feel threatend or uncomfortable.. You have to watch a girls movements and actions.. when talking to a girl its 90% actions and 10% words.. they get more from you by the way you are carrying yourself.. They read any little movements us guys make whether it be fidgeting or looking around.. You have to remain calm and relaxed. I wouldn't worry about this though because she did touch your foot on "accident" 2 times so you are good !! take care.
Author ScionaraTC Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 thanks man. well it was auctally pretty cold out i believe the outside temp was around 64 lol. we shall see what will happen next. our next "date" we are going hiking having a picnic lunch, then we are going back to her place and i am cooking her an italian dinner. so we'll see....i'll keep you guys updated
questionsforyall Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 u bought her roses man she probably had a quiet orgasm
Author ScionaraTC Posted September 23, 2005 Author Posted September 23, 2005 the roses were auctally a last minute idea i had, and i knew red would be a bad color lol. a quiet orgasm, haha. she called me tonight around 11pm we talked for about 45 mins, and she said the flowers are still alive in a vase downstairs on the coffee table in her living room.
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