Friendorfoe Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 Hi, I’m new here. I dated a guy for a while starting in October 2017 when we met on a dating site. We found we got on extremely well and he never felt anxious in my company (he has/had a lot of anxiety issues). Fast forward to now... no longer dating but we found a great friendship. We both feel relaxed in each other’s company and we always have a great time. I’ve had to go back to my home country but visit his country one week out of every 4. Our friendship has ebbed and flowed along the way but is still deep rooted. Possibility of me being in his country to live in less than a year. Both value the friendship. We had lunch yesterday before I fly home tomorrow and he texted this: “We are ok i promise. Im good with just being how we have been. Not saying we cant do certain things but i would like to keep our friendship the way it is. I value you and it a lot.” I’m confused, is he saying friendship only or friendship with sex, or what? Thanks 1
AGoodFriend Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 Hi, I’m new here. I dated a guy for a while starting in October 2017 when we met on a dating site. We found we got on extremely well and he never felt anxious in my company (he has/had a lot of anxiety issues). Fast forward to now... no longer dating but we found a great friendship. We both feel relaxed in each other’s company and we always have a great time. I’ve had to go back to my home country but visit his country one week out of every 4. Our friendship has ebbed and flowed along the way but is still deep rooted. Possibility of me being in his country to live in less than a year. Both value the friendship. We had lunch yesterday before I fly home tomorrow and he texted this: “We are ok i promise. Im good with just being how we have been. Not saying we cant do certain things but i would like to keep our friendship the way it is. I value you and it a lot.” I’m confused, is he saying friendship only or friendship with sex, or what? Thanks He wants FWB. He is attracted to you but enough to really want to get emotionally involved with you. That type of girlfriend/boyfriend relationship probably would have already happened, or your guys' case, ended up as a long-distance relationship. Since he is being honest about his feelings and what he wants, it's really up to you to decide if you want the same thing. A lot of people do the FWB thing until they naturally move on. But if you have strong feelings for him and can envision yourself as his girlfriend, then you should probably avoid an FWB with him.
stillafool Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 “We are ok i promise. Im good with just being how we have been. Not saying we cant do certain things but i would like to keep our friendship the way it is. I value you and it a lot.” I’m confused, is he saying friendship only or friendship with sex, or what? Thanks Yes he is saying he doesn't want to more than friends with you and he really values the friendship. He is also saying if you guys do have sex or not, it's okay but he still just wants to remain friends. What do you want? 1
d0nnivain Posted May 1, 2019 Posted May 1, 2019 If you have already had sex with each other he's saying he doesn't want a commitment. If you haven't had sex, he's saying he'd be open to it, NSA. Since he has anxiety, I wouldn't be too sure he's telling the truth. It might be a way to save face while simultaneously trying to advance to a relationship. I would need all the non-verbal cues not available on this forum to give you a better read.
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