simplybrill Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 My LDR guy is in the UK, and Im in the US. And its not like I met him on the net or something. We went to university together for the better part of a year. The only thing that really freaks me out--is the whole "what if it doesnt work out" scenario. He really is a great guy, but I hate the idea of having to basically "sell" my family on how wonderful he is. I wish they would just trust me. I know they dont want to see me get hurt, or change my life majorly only to have it not work. It just seems like Im the only optimist, when I talk to my family about him. There's so much judgement, and they dont even know him. To top it off, I have no idea why my closest sibling, my sister doesnt even like him. I proposed the idea of him coming to join my family and I out of town this christmas...but lets just say, she is definitely bristling at the idea of him coming. To her defense-she is a great sister! But she can be so cynical sometimes, and always thinks she knows whats best for me-even when I disagree. Frankly, I dont think she likes the fact that he's British. Whenever she talks about England, or English guys- she does it with a bad taste in her mouth. Whenever things come on tv about England, I cringe- because I know she's sitting there hating on it- whatever it is. It's not really like I can control for who I fall in love with, it just happened! I wish he wasn't in the UK, but that's life, and we're both dealing with it. How can I prove to my family that I really am being mature about this-without them blowing off the whole scenario? I dont even talk about him to with my sister, because I just know her take on him already-and that's not about to change---actually we dont really speak much anymore, and we share an apartment. Things are getting to a boiling point, and when we're both in the room, theres just this really bad nervous tension--almost like she's dissapointed in me, but doesnt want to say what about exactly. Im dreading that conversation, when it does happen. I know this might sound like Im obsessed with my sister, but I really wish she would mind her own business sometimes! I swear, I feel like I'm her pet project sometimes, and whenever something's going on in my life, if she sees anything that she could wedge her "advice" into-she's all over it- overanalyzing everything and turning it upside-down, inspecting it. I'm sure to her, I seem distant, and uninvolved in her life-but I'm really just staying away, and not telling her a lot of things so she wont get super involved in mine.
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