Taryanoriley Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 So I met a great guy! He’s caring, giving, loving, thoughtful. We have been dating for about 2 weeks and he says I’m his gf and he calls me everyday and is a bit obsessed with me. Is this normal? I have never been in a real loving relationship so idk if it’s normal:( Is this moving too fast?
basil67 Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 I've known plenty of people who've fallen for each other straight off the bat to the exclusion of all others. That said, can you describe with "a bit obsessed" refers to? 1
AGoodFriend Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 Probably too slow for him. If you think it's too fast, then it probably is. 1
Flame Aura Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 Depends. How much have you been seeing each other/communicating during these 2 weeks? On the face of it, its way too fast. Saying that though when I first met my ex while on holiday, I spent an evening with her, one more evening, then she went back to her home country, we communicated every day for one month until I met her for the 3rd time in a completely different country (I joined her on her pre booked holiday) and after one night together I asked her to be my girlfriend and she happily accepted. Has he actually asked you to be his girlfriend? 1
Author Taryanoriley Posted April 30, 2019 Author Posted April 30, 2019 I've known plenty of people who've fallen for each other straight off the bat to the exclusion of all others. That said, can you describe with "a bit obsessed" refers to? Thanks for your response. He wants to see me everyday and actually misses me if he doesn’t see me for one day
bachdude Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 Simple - he's smitten but doesn't know how to control his emotions and may even think all of this display will help his cause.
TheFinalWord Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 How old are you two? Guys with little experience or emotional self-control tend to try to hurry up and mate guard before another man scoops you up. It's a bit of possessive method, but probably harmless. He's not a bad guy, just inexperienced. He smitten like another poster said. But you've only known him for 2 weeks, it will wear off after a while. 1
I'veseenbetterlol Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 Thanks for your response. He wants to see me everyday and actually misses me if he doesn’t see me for one day That is pretty concerning. There's nothing wrong w/moving this fast, but being obsessed is not a good thing. My bf and I love being together, but we understand if there are things that come up. When I have exams, I may only see him a couple hours over the weekend, but he knows I need time to study. I dated a guy who was crazy obsessed w/me and I broke it off after a couple weeks. There was no breathing room and he got upset when I needed a day to take care of my errands. Watch out, if he starts accusing you of cheating or not loving him enough, he is manipulative and controlling.
ExpatInItaly Posted April 30, 2019 Posted April 30, 2019 For me personally, two weeks is far too fast to commit to a relationship. It would be akin to signing up for something without having read the contract first, so to speak. Only you can decide what’s right for you. It it were me, though, I would let him know that you’re enjoying your time together (assuming you are?) and would like to get to know him better before becoming an official couple. A guy with a good head on his shoulders would understand that. If he got upset or otherwise balked at my concerns, I would not know it’s not the right guy for me. If you find that he’s too clingy in terms of wanting to spend time with you, don’t be afraid to say no sometimes. You still need to have a life outside this guy, and hopefully he has one too.
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