Knowing When A Dating Issue Is Moot

[Tim87]

It seems like on loveshack 90% of the members are good at pointing out when a dating situation is a moot point. Like they can tell within the first sentence of a poster's story that they got serious red flags and don't even need to finish reading the rest of the post as any additional information in the story is a moot point.

 

What are some examples of moot points in dating? I'll start. Not being on the same page with the kids issue. If she wants kids and I don't then everything else about the relationship is a moot point because we are headed for a breakup anyway.

 

Knowing when issues are moot saves alot of time. In other words why even ask a question when the answer would not change the bottom line of the situation? Why worry about getting new tires on a car when it has a leaky transmission? You can't drive it anyway.

[snowcones]

What are some examples of moot points in dating? I'll start. Not being on the same page with the kids issue. If she wants kids and I don't then everything else about the relationship is a moot point because we are headed for a breakup anyway.

 

 

That's correct. If only most guys thought that way. No, most young guys don't think about it at all, or all they are thinking about is "Is she F-able or not?" That goes for young and old guys. Then they find themselves having sex with a woman who wants kids and they tell themselves that it's just sex, and then all kinds of outcomes happen. I have even seen guys say that they don't want kids and won't date a woman with kids, but will still be open to having sex with a woman who wants kids or has kids. They are open to everything and they'll take anything. They don't know specifically what they want and certainly don't stick to it. Which is terribly unattractive.

[Mrin]

Sexually incompatible. Sometimes it is libido. Sometimes it is the "style" of sex. Either way, unless you're on the same chapter if not page, it isn't going to work.

[Tim87]

My goal is to go out on only 1 date per woman I meet. I'm not interested in 2nd dates. This is a moot point because not every woman who goes out with me is going to fall in love and want to be my girlfriend. I may not even get past the 1st date even if I wanted to. No need to explain to women upfront that it will only be 1 date.