Guy problems

[bekalc]

So I have a long time friend... Who I have been interested in for years...….I finally said not into me move on got in a relationship....

 

Lately he's been acting different? But emotionally haven't wanted to get my hopes up.

 

And I am shy... Its almost like he wants me to be the girl. Hey I am thinking about going to this event. Hey this..And I have to invite to tag myself along? I don't know is it friends is it what?

 

I didn't even know how to react????

 

Well since I liked him I messaged him about one event and even said I wasn't sure how to respond what was going on. I got a yeah, I'm probably going. I will keep you posted. I didn't hear for days.

 

I thought about it and was like you know what... So maybe he gets like a better option? And thought about a couple of things.... And was like you know what I'm not interested in starting anything at all. With someone who is that ambivalent about me. I don't care if I like him. I care nothing about "my chance with him." It doesn't matter how great he is on paper.

 

Well I got a response of. But I thought you were going, what are you doing instead? And I will be with a few of our friends.. Work had come up it wasn't happening. I mentioned doing something later he mentioned he didn't end up doing much.

 

So obviously I am back on I guess he's not ambivalent. The whole thing feels like games, which I don't like.... I really don't want to play games with him.. I wasn't playing a game when I cancelled.

 

 

I really hate having to be the guy, but I do know I have liked this guy for awhile, (inspite of this crap) and so maybe its worth it to say what I think which is for a long time I have thought great guy, it's really to bad he doesn't seem to be into me as anything more than a friend. Oh well, I am going to find a guy who is into me. Plenty of fish in the sea and guys who do.

Edited April 29, 2019 by bekalc

[d0nnivain]

I'm not sure I follow you but let me know if I got this right:

 

You are a gay man who has a crush on another guy. He has never taking the initiative with you, like asking you out. You have tried to make it easy for him by letting him know your social schedule but he's not even giving you a concrete response to those hints.

 

If the above is accurate (even if I got the genders wrong & you are a straight woman), I think you are correct to write him off. You have done more then enough to telegraph your interest but his continued unwillingness to step up to the plate entitles you to move forward. You don't need somebody in your life that you practically had to beg to pay attention to you.