Elizzabeth Posted April 27, 2019 Posted April 27, 2019 I am dating a man for 4 months and I am so confused. He told me that he is bipolar person but I could not notice it in the beginning. Just some week ago He started to amaze me. One minute he is ready to do every thing for me, in another minute he is over everything because he just is not sure in it. Was the same situation when we discussed our relationship, Once he told me that he wants a family but after couple days he told me he will never have the relationship with me that I want. Then again he told me that I knew everything about him and asked me not to run from his life. I just send him message, Hey how are you, whats up and he blocked my number. I am really so in love with this man and I just dont know what to do. It will be difficult for me to cut the contact but If he doesn't want to? or its the depression period again? Do you have any experience in dating bipolar?
basil67 Posted April 27, 2019 Posted April 27, 2019 Changing states from one minute to another is not indicative of bipolar. What broader signs of bipolar are you seeing on, say, a three to six month period? 1
BaileyB Posted April 27, 2019 Posted April 27, 2019 (edited) I am really so in love with this man and I just dont know what to do. It will be difficult for me to cut the contact. With respect Elizzabeth, it has been four months. It’s really not normal or healthy to feel like you are so in love with a man that you can not cut contact after four months. And after four months, you should not have much conflict or drama in your relationship. This is the “honeymoon” phase when you are feeling the love and wanting to be together. The fact that his feelings, his communication, and his behavior have been very inconsistent should be a HUGE red flag to you. Stay, and you are likely signing on for more... He says he’s bipolar, his behavior is causing serious red flags - this wouldn’t even be a difficult decision for me. I want a man who is reliable and consistent, who loves me and demonstrates that by his words and actions every day... I would end this relationship and not even second guess my decision. Sorry. Edited April 27, 2019 by BaileyB 1
Redhead14 Posted April 27, 2019 Posted April 27, 2019 Your confused because he's confused (at best). What you're describing isn't about being bi-polar. He may have co-morbid issues though. Bottom line is you need to walk away from this or you will find yourself exhausted by the relationship.
Lotsgoingon Posted April 27, 2019 Posted April 27, 2019 Bipolar is going from deeply depressed states ... for hours and hours and days and perhaps weeks and months ... to manic energized ... again ... for long periods of time. This guy is just "all over the place." His actions here are flaky, not bipolar. Dump him. The relationship isn't going anywhere. He's just lost and out of touch with his feelings, which could be (or not) some other condition. Doesn't matter, it isn't going to work. 2
mortensorchid Posted April 28, 2019 Posted April 28, 2019 He may be bipolar - mood swings from happy to anger to depressive - but I think you have to ask yourself some other questions. On his part is he on meds? How is he managing it? What are his relationships with other people like? Etc. And with you, how is his relationship with you? I think it would be best if you just resolve things and say this is not what you want and move on.
smackie9 Posted April 28, 2019 Posted April 28, 2019 My mom is bi-polar/OCD/recovering alcoholic. I know what it's like to live with, grow up with, a person with a mental disorder. Run, don't walk, just run. Whatever he's got, he hasn't got it under control. It's is not up to you to fix this. It is his and his family's responsibility. TBH it doesn't sound like he's willing to face the reality that he has a life time of therapy which is common. They get treatment feel better then think they got it beat and don't need treatment anymore. He was on a high meeting you, thought he could handle it, now 4 months later it's all has started to unravel. People like him don't have coping skills to handle the simplest of life's challenges and functionality. Can you imagine being married to someone like this? And raising children in this enviroment?
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