towch Posted April 25, 2019 Posted April 25, 2019 Am I being irrational and hot headed? I have a history of wetting the bed until my late teens. So bad that my mom thought force me to go to one of those church healing thing. Strangely enough I was so annoyed by the idea that I needed divine intervention to stop bed wetting that I stopped bed wetting for the most part. fast forward 10+ years, I do not bed wet but get maybe once a year the dream where I am peeing while peeing in real life, I tend to caught myself so much that I don't wet the bed but I will need a change of under wear. This is not something my GF knows about but I have told her about my past of being a late teen bed wetter. Anyways, last night was incredibly hot for me. so much so that the bed was really socked, I do sweat sometimes but this one was bad. I get up to dry my back and cool off while looking for a sheet to place on the bed. GF wakes... GF: what are you doing? Me: look at this (showing her the huge wet patch) GF: Did you pee? Me: No, it is just sweat GF: Are you sure it is not pee? Me: Yes I am sure GF: ummm **chuckles**, I don't know my love. I got really heated, wetting the bed is not something she and I have experienced but it is still something I would be be sensitive about. Why am I angry? I am angry about her double doubting me. If she wanted to know that bad, all she needed to do was get closer and confirmed for herself but I guess she was so repulsed by the notion that she was nothing willing to do that. ***END OF VENT***
olivetree Posted April 25, 2019 Posted April 25, 2019 Bed-wetting seems to be a towchy subject for you 1
Author towch Posted April 25, 2019 Author Posted April 25, 2019 Bed-wetting seems to be a towchy subject for you hehe oh it is . boarding school was not fun
40somethingGuy Posted April 25, 2019 Posted April 25, 2019 Tell her that next time you'll be giving her the golden shower in bed. 1
preraph Posted April 25, 2019 Posted April 25, 2019 You're understandably sensitive, as most bed wetters would be, because it was a humiliating time for you, and it sounds like things may have gotten kind of abusive. I love your story about the crazy healing thing working, though. So you are going to have to sit her down and explain what a humiliating time it was for you and that you have no sense of humor about it and ask her to please not tease about it because it stirs up old emotions. If she's not a mean girl, she will do what you ask. What you talked about, dreaming happens to people, especially as they get older. I think you know you need to go so you dream about it and if you don't wake up in time, oops. Elderly know all about this. Anyone with bladder problems knows all about this. I guess your gf got the idea you had a sense of humor about it, but you need to tell her you really don't. Understandably.
emeraldgreen Posted April 25, 2019 Posted April 25, 2019 She was negging you. Your reaction was based on past shame or current insecurity, I guess. Don't ever tell a girl about your late teen problem again. That's yours to own and bury, not give people as ammunition or comedic material. 1
bachdude Posted April 26, 2019 Posted April 26, 2019 Sounds to me like she doesn't mind and was just gently teasing a little. I think it's healthy to not take ourselves too seriously and chuckle a little. But if it really bothers you to the point where any type of teasing about it makes you angry, better to nicely let her know before it happens again and it turns into an argument. 1
basil67 Posted April 26, 2019 Posted April 26, 2019 In a regular relationship, this would just be a bit of banter. But as you are sensitive due to your history, let her know how you feel. 1
Mrin Posted April 26, 2019 Posted April 26, 2019 In a regular relationship, this would just be a bit of banter. But as you are sensitive due to your history, let her know how you feel. This. She was just giving you ****. 2
OnlyHonesty Posted April 26, 2019 Posted April 26, 2019 I have told her about my past of being a late teen bed wetter. Why did you do that? Men need to learn to keep it to themselves. As you've just discovered they will only use what you tell them against you. Don't make that mistake again...consider it on a need to know basis. 1
mortensorchid Posted April 27, 2019 Posted April 27, 2019 Have you gone to therapy over this? I mean, actually seen a professional rather than just a "prat it away" type thing? There are things that help bed wetters break the habit (or there were - those special sheets that have bells ring, alert the sleeper to get up and go to the bathroom)? Stop all liquids at noon like they say you should? Etc. On her part, that was not very nice of her to make the remark, but now that she has ... It's embarrassing. I did it once or twice when I was in my teens, they were isolated instances. To this day I have no idea how or why it happened to me. And then one day it never happened again.
gradh Posted April 27, 2019 Posted April 27, 2019 My daughter had nocturnal enuresis (night time incontinence) into her teen years. I tried limiting the fluids, waking her just before I went to bed, etc. I finally ordered the nighttime alarm system. It came with a book which explained that a big factor in the incontinence is actually constipation. Cure that and many times the incontinence stops. Between addressing the constipation problem and using the alarm she was cured in just a few weeks. The alarm went off twice in a week and then never again. Something to consider at least. I do think you are being a bit sensitive. Maybe she doesn't realize how sensitive you are about it. I'd tell her those are jokes you just can't handle.
Lotsgoingon Posted April 28, 2019 Posted April 28, 2019 Dude, you would NOT want a woman who saw a huge spot in the bed and said, Oh well must be sweat. This woman was asking appropriate questions. I am a big sweater and I can't recall a big sweat stain in a bed ... I can recall other kinds of stains ... but not sweat stains. She was quite reasonable to ask this basic and obvious question. Not sure, why you got in such a huff.
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