vix Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 I came on here in the summer after a messy break-up (5yr relationship). I was devastated, wanted my ex back more than anything & at first chased for answers, etc. I phoned, visited, cried - you name it. Its been close to 4 months now since he walked away & what can i say?! NC REALLY WORKS. At first i did NC, thinking/hoping that he might come back but one day i woke up & thought - What the hell am i doing? I'm moping around over someone who couldn't care less & probably won't come back anyway! That was over a month ago & i've been doing NC since but for a different reason this time - FOR ME! I've realised that i don't want him to come back because i've moved on & i don't want/need to have any kind of relationship with someone who doesn't respect me. I don't miss him & i rarely think about him anymore. The tears have long gone, the fun has started & i'm better off not having him in my life. For those doubting NC - DON'T! If doing it to get someone back (it won't work) but if doing it for you - IT'S THE BEST WAY FORWARD! I just hope that reading this will help one person. I know what it's like, i wouldn't wish it on anyone & if anything, i've learnt that you've got to look after number 1. It's a selfish thought but it's so true.
georgiagirl76 Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 I am glad to hear that you are finally happy and are moving on. You are an inspiration for those who cannot see the light. However, I don't necessarily agree with you that NC doesn't work if you want someone back. Yes, it isn't foolproof and if someone is over you they aren't going to come back. However, if the person is at all conflicted the only way they will start missing you or get curious enough to contact you is if you don't contact them. I am saying this from experience. I didn't contact my ex fiance and after 4 months he ended up contacting me. I had an experience similar to yours and realized that although I had thought that my life was over without him it wasn't. We didn't get back together- my choice! Anyway- I am here again with another breakup but I am glad to hear that you are doing so well and thanks for remembering to post your positive story.
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