Author Rotaglia Posted May 26, 2019 Author Posted May 26, 2019 In my State New Jersey, whoever leaves the house is actually hurting themselves. I stayed till the end, and after the divorce she moved out of the house.True in many if not most states, if I understand correctly.
loversquarrel Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 @preraph Actually sex matters in my state in a couple of ways: 1) In order to get a divorce, a couple must live apart and simultaneously abstain from sex with each other for a minimum of one year; 2) refusing sex with your spouse for a year or more is an element of constructive abandonment of the marriage which can be grounds for absolute (instead of limited) divorce. Adultery is a felony in my state, I however have yet to see anyone actually charged for it. These days most courts treat marriage like business partners and divorce as the dissolution of that business. Basically each business partner starts off with 50%, and each then has to prove contributions to assets, child care for children, etc.. Abandonment only occurs if mom left the house to be with the boyfriend and left the kids for the spouse to take care of, or stopped contributing to the household bills, etc.
Veronica73 Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 I never knew that about you shouldn’t move out until I came to this forum. Maybe because it’s not an issue in my state. I’m glad I live in a no fault divorce state. Makes the divorce pretty clear cut if there aren’t kids and both people work. Or it should anyway.
amaysngrace Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 In my State New Jersey, whoever leaves the house is actually hurting themselves. Not necessarily. It depends on the market value when one leaves compared to when they bought. I know a woman who made out well when she left because home values were jacked. He ended up never being able to climb out from under it. Plus he had to live in that house that they bought together, only now he was there without her because she wanted out. Compounding that with only half the money to pay the overhead can be a recipe for some serious anger and depression. It isn’t always fabulous to stay in the house.
Veronica73 Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 When I left I continued to pay my share of the mortgage and the rest of the bills until our divorce was official. (On top of my crappy apartment rent). To the people who say you shouldn’t leave the house or it will bite you in the ass later, are you assuming that the person leaving has stopped paying their share of the bills? Or does that matter?
Mr. Lucky Posted May 28, 2019 Posted May 28, 2019 To the people who say you shouldn’t leave the house or it will bite you in the ass later, are you assuming that the person leaving has stopped paying their share of the bills? I think most separating spouses, either out of necessity or selfishness, don't support two households for long ... Mr. Lucky 1
AMarriedMan Posted June 2, 2019 Posted June 2, 2019 Our state requires a year of separate residence and no sex between the separating couple during that year before a divorce can take effect. That's funny. How is it established whether there was sex or not? If it's word against word, what evidence will be considered?
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