Ex gf keeps sending me stuff via Facebook Messenger. I am the dumpee here.

[regdent]

I was dumped four days ago by ex-gf of 2 months. Her reasons for not being able to be in a relationship- 1) She has not finished grieving the loss of her mom from 6 months ago and it is hard for her to be emotionally available. She cried whenever something reminded her of her mom. Still does. She said trying to be a loving girlfriend while we were together was very difficult 2) My mom's disapproval of her because of the fact that her parents are no longer alive (That really broke her heart and made her cry a lot. This happened about a week ago.) 3) Her business, which she was able to launch around the time her mom passed, is not taking off as quickly as she would like it to. 4) On the day she dumped me, she found out a good friend of hers from childhood died due to deep vein thrombosis. Long story short, she said she had been overwhelmed with too many emotions despite her strong attraction to me, and her depression got worse while we were together. She said that the relationship made it even more difficult for her to function normally in general but there wasn't really anything I did wrong. She got sick a lot while we were together. She said she didn't wanna drag me down. She said she felt like a ticking bomb. She begged for sex most of that week and made a list of places she would like to go with me. What happened to building a life of abundance together?? I told her I would have to respect her wishes despite my still strong feelings for her.

 

Although the relationship was short-lived, the breakup has been the hardest one for me to process out of all the breakups I've experienced. I felt so strongly connected to her because I thought of her as someone who could potentially be my long-term partner because I thought we had similar goals, outlook, etc. We do the same job, so it was so nice to have a partner who could understand me. She has told her friends that I have been giving her the most intense orgasms ever, so I miss that aspect as well. I feel a huge void.

 

She reached out to me two days after she decided to end the relationship. We just asked each other about how each party was doing and stuff. She told me she cried all weekend, but she started feeling like she could finally breathe. I told her I would be there for her if she needed me. Then, I had a change of heart yesterday (Day 3) when she sent me some text messages. Those messages started bothering me because those just felt like messages she would send to her friends instead of someone she loves. I told her I would go to her place to grab all of my stuff so that I can get a clean break and move on.

 

After I was done grabbing all of my stuff, she wanted to talk. I suppose she wanted to explain herself again. I told her I couldn't just be a friend because I would probably get false hope by sticking around, and it wouldn't be good for either one of us. I told her that she has a lot of qualities I look for in a partner and that I would like to talk to her again only if we both wanted to try dating again. We had a parting kiss, and I left.

 

This morning I woke up and noticed that she sent me some random video via Facebook Messenger while I was asleep at home. I responded by writing, "Hey ____, I miss you. With that said, this is gonna be my last message in a while. I hope you understand. Enjoy this!" and sent her a video I found funny. Then, just now, she sent me some random stuff via Facebook Messenger again.

What does it seem like she's trying to accomplish here? Does it seem like she is fishing for my attention now that it is no longer readily available? Or does it seem like she regrets her decision? Either way, I am not gonna respond to that. I am torn right now. Part of me wishes we could get back together because I still love her, but then I also feel that I need to focus on getting my strength back.

[basil67]

Block her so that she can't send you this stuff. You need to move on.

 

Also, the stuff your mother said about her being an orphan....did you tear strips off your mother for that and demand an apology? If not, I can see that this incident would have been a major contributor to your girlfriend leaving you. Appalling behaviour.

[regdent]

Yeah... She ended up apologizing to me but only after my relationship ended...

[Libragirl1210]

My ex does this sends random links to videos, I think it’s to test the water and see if and how you respond. If your open to communicate with her then respond if your not then ignore it