dougal19 Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 please help me im feeling as low as anyone can, i want my ex back but she has started a new life with another lad and she is having his baby, what can i do to forget her, i cant go on without her in my life, please help me!
Author dougal19 Posted September 22, 2005 Author Posted September 22, 2005 i love her and she says she loves me but what can i do i have told her i want her back and she said she wants me but che cant get back with me, im drinking alot and just giving up now!!!!!
Woggle Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 Be happy without her. Read my sig and follow it.
Author dougal19 Posted September 22, 2005 Author Posted September 22, 2005 sorry mate what do u mean read my sig?
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 i love her and she says she loves me but what can i do i have told her i want her back and she said she wants me but che cant get back with me What she is doing is not fair to you. Its not fair to the chump who unknowingly has his woman telling another man that she loves him. Its not fair to the kid who will be born into a relationship where the woman is telling another man besides 'daddy' that she loves him. You can't make things fair for anyone but yourself. As painful as it is, the only thing to do is isolate yourself from her. All that hearing her say that stuff is doing is killing you slowly. The only way back to life is to stop hearing her say that - and that means cutting her out of your life. Do not contact her. Do not allow her to contact you. If drinking is what you have to do, then so be it - but... with time, and no contact from her whatsoever perhaps it will become easy enough for you that you will not have to resort to that just to get by.
Art_Critic Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 i love her and she says she loves me but what can i do i have told her i want her back and she said she wants me She is pregnant by another guy.. That means she has moved on and is banging some other guy. You will not get her back... She is gone and there is nothing in this situation you can do to get her back.. I repeat she is pregnant by another guy and is having his baby.. She is gone for good.. You have to push yourself to move on without her and live your life ..
Author dougal19 Posted September 22, 2005 Author Posted September 22, 2005 thats the thing, ive tried really hard to have NC but i cant i either text her, ring her or send her a letter, its like, i know it sounds stupid but she is my world and without her i am know one i dont belong nowhere, i dont have a close bond with any one in my family and i dont bother with my friends no more, i just want her in my life, i dont know what to do, i cant have NC with her it would kill me not hearing her voice but what else can i do
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 This isn't easy to hear, but if you stay - you are not a victim, you are a volunteer and you know what it is you are signing up for. If you refuse to help yourself by building a life without her, then understand that you are participating in the death of your own heart. You will have to understand that your role with her from here on out, should you choose to keep her in your life is that of the 'other man'. Your place will be last behind her new family. You will serve only to fill the gaps she has in her other relationship. She will never be truly yours - and you will have to face life knowing that your life will be truncated, while she gets to enjoy the benfits of everything in her life AND everything in yours. You will be giving up the chance to find someone with whom you can share 100% just so that you can settle for considerably less with her. Should she somehow get herself out of this, and leave a smoking ruin of a family behind her - and ends up with you, you will be faced with the responsibility of some other man's child and the very real possibility that she will do this to you again. She already showed you how important you are to her by going off with some other guy and starting a family. It is time to figure out how important you are to yourself. What are you willing to go for in life? What are you willing to lower your expectations to in order to settle for less?
Author dougal19 Posted September 22, 2005 Author Posted September 22, 2005 yeah i now understand what you mean and now i want o bulid a life without her and find someone else but what can i do now, i mean what can i do to start my own life without her
LucreziaBorgia Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 Every journey starts with a first step. Your first step is isolating yourself from her so that you will not be tempted to go back. That first step will be devastating, but unless you take it - you are not going to be able to save yourself from this.
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