What would make a man very attractive to gay men but not at all to women?

[Veronica73]

Never said you did. But 190lbs, 10% BF, at 5'11" is really muscular. Men into lifting are going to appreciate the work it takes more than most women.

 

I agree with the above. And in my opinion, most women don’t care about that crap. If anything...and I say this with a grain of salt, but it could possibly come across as vain. And even possibly intimidating, depending on how you interact with them.

[bassnectar7]

Never said you did. But 190lbs, 10% BF, at 5'11" is really muscular. Men into lifting are going to appreciate the work it takes more than most women.

 

 

Isn't weight lifting very mainstream nowadays though? Tons and tons and tons of women at the weight section in my gym

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I don't look like a steroidhead. I still look very natural/healthy/athletic

 

I get compliments both from serious lifters and regular people

 

Still, you're attracting people who only care about your physical appeal, which is going to be mostly men. You need to try to figure out what is wrong with your personality that is not attracting women, because women care about what you look like AND what your character is like.

[preraph]

Now that you given us a description of your facial features being square-jawed and thick neck etc, honestly that's more blockish than a lot of women like. The 9% body fat again fits more into what guys care about. There are lots of women who are not that crazy about real muscular guys. A lot of gay guys like very Camacho thickly muscled men though, and a lot of gay guys really like a straight guy's genuinely macho vibe. gay guys are always getting crushes on straight guys, and I'm sure if you Google it you can see all the different slang for the different types of guys they like, and you might discover that you fall into one of the categories.

[Veronica73]

Isn't weight lifting very mainstream nowadays though? Tons and tons and tons of women at the weight section in my gym

 

Yes it is mainstream. But I bet women weight lifting is much more hugely beneficial to them as compared to men weightlifting and focusing a ton of energy on it. There are tons of benefits to weightlifting. Especially to women because they don’t have much testosterone.

[bassnectar7]

Still, you're attracting people who only care about your physical appeal, which is going to be mostly men. You need to try to figure out what is wrong with your personality that is not attracting women, because women care about what you look like AND what your character is like.

 

 

I don't get any opportunities to showcase my character. I haven't been on a date in 3 years

 

3 years ago, i tried to give it a chance with this beautiful 34 year old woman. I was seeing her for 2 months and we got along great but i knew I wouldn't be happy seriously dating a woman with kids who was older than me. She had nothing but great things to say about me.

 

Now I don't have sex anymore unless I can seriously date them. I don't want to mislead anybody so I'm living a monk asexual lifestyle. I don't get any opportunities with anybody decent.

[Veronica73]

Still, you're attracting people who only care about your physical appeal, which is going to be mostly men. You need to try to figure out what is wrong with your personality that is not attracting women, because women care about what you look like AND what your character is like.

 

Yes, this times 1000.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

Isn't weight lifting very mainstream nowadays though? Tons and tons and tons of women at the weight section in my gym

 

Then they're doing something wrong .

[bassnectar7]

Then they're doing something wrong .

 

 

I love how mainstream weightlifting has become

 

So many beautiful women at my gym with beautiful, strong yet feminine bodies. I love this cultural shift

 

When i started working out 12 years ago, the weights section was 95% men

[basil67]

Now I don't have sex anymore unless I can seriously date them. I don't want to mislead anybody so I'm living a monk asexual lifestyle. I don't get any opportunities with anybody decent.

 

As I've said numerous times before, if you were as great as you describe yourself, you'd be invited to every event around and have ample opportunity to meet women who attractive.

 

If it's not happening, you need to reassess yourself. Bring yourself down a peg or two.

[Veronica73]

Now I don't have sex anymore unless I can seriously date them. I don't want to mislead anybody so I'm living a monk asexual lifestyle. I don't get any opportunities with anybody decent.

 

I don’t know. I mean, it doesn’t seem like your appearance is the problem. I guess... maybe if you’re a gym rat or REALLY into body building... I can see that there may be some women who would be repelled by that. (I’m actually one of them). I’d rather be with someone who actually works and produces something and has a little belly than be with someone who spends hours in the gym perfecting their physique. That’s actually kind of repulsive to me. I mean going to the gym to be healthy is fine... but that sort of dedication to your appearance is gross and a huge turn-off to me, personally. It yells vanity. But I’m older than you and it’s just my personal opinion. But I’ve dated guys, and married one, who had a great physique (not bodybuilder standard, but I really don’t like that personally) and he never had a gym membership. He kept active and ate healthy and he had a great body, but wasn’t vain and overly obsessed about it. He lived his life and took care of himself.

[CautiouslyOptimistic]

I love how mainstream weightlifting has become

 

So many beautiful women at my gym with beautiful, strong yet feminine bodies. I love this cultural shift

 

When i started working out 12 years ago, the weights section was 95% men

 

Well, you clearly missed my joke, so that tells me that you don't pick up on social cues. This is why you are not attracting women.

 

Are you autistic? Do you have Asperger's by chance?