mortensorchid Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 Before you go crazy and end things because of this (and please excuse as I have not read your other threads about you history) here are a few facts you may or may not be aware of in this area: Couples sleeping in the same bed together is a relatively recent phenomena. Think about when you were a kid (as in from a little kid to a teenager) - all kids sleep alone unless there is a sleep over or if you and siblings sleep in the same bed as kind of a fun thing to do. Most of us are used to sleeping alone and when we are suddenly sleeping in a bed with someone else a lot (as in a couples situation) it's uncomfortable. If you have ever seen any historical dramas or read books in England it was a tradition that couples would not just have separate bedrooms but they would have separate entrances to the house they lived in. It was understood that when you have joined forces as a couple you are going to lives separate lives completely. Granted marriages were arranged and they were arranged for political reasons rather than for love, it was understood you would "grow to love each other" over time. Otherwise you were free to do what you want whether it was for business or personal reasons. Being together is an adjustment in many areas, sleeping together is one of them. And I am not just talking about sex either, but sharing a space with someone is an adjustment in itself. I can't believe how many people I have encountered who have this "it's all about me" attitude about things and simply refuse to make the adjustments or always end up bending to the other person's wants and needs and are completely miserable in doing so. But that can go into another thread. However, that may not be the end of this either. Maybe he just didn't feel comfortable sleeping in the same bed as you for the sake of physical comfort. Ask him how and why he decided to move to the couch. Maybe he's not used to sleeping with someone else and would rather be alone.
stillafool Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 Evan is part of his LS name that he is posting by Thisisevan717 He is also a male... Thanks Art, now I got it. OP, he wanted sex with you but nothing more. That is why he slept in the other room so as not to confuse you about what he wants. Sorry he hurt you.
BaileyB Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 Is it possible that he is still coming to terms with his sexuality? Sex is one thing, sleeping in the same bed with someone is perhaps, even more intimate. Perhaps, this was just something he wasn’t ready to do? He needed some time to come to terms with what he was feeling...
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