dany Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now. Lately I've been hearing a lot of "I'm Sorry" for the same reasons.. that he's forgotten we planned something or he's invited me somewhere. In the first case my boy had invited me to a party where I would meet his friends. The next day he acted as if he had forgotten all about and decided he wasn't going and right there in front of me was organising other plans with his friends expecting that I was going home. Not till I confronted him about it did he realise it upset me. Another time he 'forgot he had invited me' was the other night when he had another party to go to. He went without me after we had a little fight about his lack of memory! Tonight he forgot again. He had planned to go bowling with me tonight but 'forgotten' and never informed me of what was doing. He's out with his friends but has told me he's very sorry and can't believe he has done it again. I love him. I forgive him. But sometimes these situations get me so depressed and the only way I can get over them is by telling him just how I feel and crying... lots of crying. The feeling I feel when this happens is alone... I sometimes feel like he's forgotten me. He loves me. He says he's sorry but I need some kind of way to stay positive. I can get really upset over these silly issues...
ReluctantRomeo Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 Well, it's possible that he just doesn't care about your feelings. But the most useful assumption to start with is that he's just disorganised and forgetful. You could try being proactive in asking him what he's up to and in arranging what you're gonna do together. If this works, fine. If he "forgets" even when you ask him directly what he's doing that evening, then dump him.
Iluvsiamese Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 Could be just a very bad memory and lack of organization. Or it could be that you are simply not a priority with him. In my experience, people remember what is most important to them with minimal problems. My ex could recall baseball scores and hockey standings down to the nth detail, both current and previous years, but very little else as there weren't many other things that mattered to him. I suspect that you are more of a convenience than a priority. Don't waste too much time waiting for definitive proof. You can give Reluctant Romeo's suggestion a go, but if nothing changes then you have as much answer as you will get. Saying "Sorry" is a pretty easy out. Only a change in behaviour says he means business.
bethrocksguitar Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 try writing things down for him. Some people are very forgetful. But people do have a tendency to remember things that are important to them. Have you talked to him about this? I know people hate fighting. I was in a relationship like this once, and he honestly didn't care about my feelings. You will appreciate a guy that can remember things later!!
questionsforyall Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 maybe hes scared of losing his demanding group of friends?
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