Marc878 Posted April 20, 2019 Posted April 20, 2019 You want advice but then argue against it. I suspect this girl will fix that naïveté for you. Nothing like getting learning the hard way
chillii Posted April 20, 2019 Posted April 20, 2019 Yeah, I bet she's having a Popsicle :lmao: I can't tell if this is a troll or what, but you should just show up unannounced sometime and see what's up. I just think it's really weird. Either way, I wouldn't take her too seriously. Yeah , was wondering the same thing myself, l mean and supposedly 27, ahhhh ,
Flame Aura Posted April 20, 2019 Posted April 20, 2019 Attention seeker. Very bad. Run. I talk from experience. My first love was like this. We go to a bar and she gets all flirty with the owner just to get free drinks, while I'm there. I could write a book on my experiences with her, but I will cut straight to the end. She was cheating on me. A lot. You will get your heart broken eventually.
Poutrew Posted April 20, 2019 Posted April 20, 2019 She actually told you she was eating a popsicle?? And you bought it? You could have told her that the neighbor lady brought over a steaming hot muffin for you to taste while she was gone... Cheating or not, she'd have understood. 1
Inspire Posted April 20, 2019 Posted April 20, 2019 You two are on your first getaway and she exchanges numbers with another guy because she wants to learn French? She spends the night in a hotel room with another guy and its acceptable because she told you what hotel and room she was staying in? Even if nothing was going on, it doesn't bode well. In my mind, she feels vindicated in her actions because of that blanket disclaimer she gave you. The reality is, there are some things you just don't do because of how it might be perceived and that often matters more then what was intended. Make sense? I would have told her that the disclaimer wasn't a "free pass" to disrespect me, and that would have been the end of that. Your friends hitting on her is another matter entirely. They should respect you and that means not being flirtatious with her. If my friends were hitting on my girlfriend, I'd have a problem with that. You just don't do that. I have a feeling that you believe that this girl is out of your league, and as a result, you are willing to take some of the BS that comes with it to keep her. The bottom line is if you don't have respect for yourself, why should she?
ChatroomHero Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 (edited) How are you guys so sure? Then why is she so open about it with me? She even tells me where she's going or wears her outfit to show me it's revealing so I know. She also hangs out with my friends so you're saying she's cheating with them too? Lol no way they're friends I even trusted them to take her to clubbing. Ah, the old 'dumb robber' excuse. He's on camera, face showing in HD, ID badge on his company shirt visible on the video, no mask, robbing a bank. His defense is, "I would have to be stupid to rob a bank and show my face and wear ID, so clearly it cannot be me!". The thing about liars and cheaters is they know what they are doing. They know how to give you comfort and make you trust them...Oh, you walked in on her and 4 guys and they were all naked in bed? We'll, they are all pre-med students and were studying her for their big biology exam tomorrow. Jim, show him your Biology text book to prove it!... Hey, I am going to a this guy's house to help him decorate, I probably have to spend the night because rain or drinking or car problems or I lost my car keys or phone...but I told you all about it so clearly I am not cheating! She knows that you are trusting. She knows that she can tell you a weak excuse and because she tells you a little bit upfront, you believe she must be honest because otherwise she would never tell you. Accomplished liars hide their deception in plain sight. Accomplished liars set up pre-emptive cover stories to cover the future lie. If she tells you something that seems like she wouldn't normally tell you about if she was cheating, it is solely to stop you from questioning further. If you do question her about it more deeply, her response will be I told you all about it so you know I am not lying! You'll eventually catch her if you question her. She'll give you the story about going to a hotel room and then staying because she was drunk...if you ask her what hotel she was at and what bar, she'll say she forgot, or she'll give you a hotel name that isn't even in the city she was supposedly in. When you question that, she'll say something like the guy lost his room key or they mistakenly gave away his room so they went to another hotel...if you called the hotel and asked to be transferred to the room she said she was in, they'd say there is no such room or that room is empty. When you questioned her, she would say there was a water leak and they had to move, or some other nonsense. Bottom line is this girl is playing you like a fiddle and you are on here trying to justify that she is not. If you really wanted the truth, you could find out very easy. But I doubt you want confirmation, you want to live in bliss. Enjoy it while you can because it won't last very long. It will last up until the point she is hanging with other guys and ignoring you and you call her out and she turns it around on you. Inspire said it perfectly, you probably think she is out of your league so you are willing to be blind and take it and pretend you have something. I mean, you can argue against what people are saying on here but the fact that you posted on here asking about it means you know without a doubt what the situation really is. You are just fighting against the truth you already know by ignoring reason and rationality. A big part of being an adult is being able to accept the truth in bad situations and deal with it directly by respecting yourself and not ignoring what is right in front of you. I think we both know you know what everyone is telling you on here is spot on. The question is, are you capable of accepting and dealing with the truth? Edited April 21, 2019 by ChatroomHero 1
princessaurora Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 She is most likely cheating. If not she is setting the atmosphere up for that. I was very flirty and had mostly guy friends in my early 20's. Other than one, I never spent the night alone with them, and he lived with his parents, that's the only reason I felt comfortable. I will tell you that every single one of them made a move on me at some point. Even my husband's former friends made very lude comments about me when he was out the room during drunken video game nights and they thought I was passed out drunk. Several of them also touched me in ways I never should have allowed, but a part of me loved the attention. I do not believe guys want to be just friends with an attractive girl. They are hoping to get laid, simple as that. And she's dressing provocatively for herself? Um,no. You do that to turn guys or girls on, any girl who says otherwise is lying to herself. She should reserve that sort of thing for you. If she's wearing revealing clothing alone in a hotel room with other guys while drinking, she is sending a very clear message and if that's not her intention, she's putting herself in a very risky situation. You should express concern about her safety, because her behavior can get her in real trouble.
BaileyB Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 (edited) If your girlfriend respected you, she would not be behaving the way that she does. If you had any self respect, you would be tolerating this kind of behavior from your girlfriend. Edited April 21, 2019 by BaileyB 1
dispatch3d Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 I would just mic drop and be outta there at like, one of these transgressions.
kendahke Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 (edited) But was she supposed to drive home drunk? I take it you've never heard of these apps called "Uber" and "Lyft"? They work really well... Cabs works, too. But moreover---why is she out getting drunk to the point where she can't drive and she's falling on the mercy of strange men or your friends for a safe place to lay her head for the night? I mean, where are you when all this messiness is going on? This is some beta cuck mess right here... She leans too much on men for things---I mean, if she wants to learn french so baldy, Duolingo is really good. There are websites set up to help people out with their speaking of languages, so that excuse she gave? Weak. a. f. Her sex must be off the chain... Edited April 21, 2019 by kendahke
kendahke Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 Are you secure enough and sure enough with yourself that if the worst happened, you could dust yourself off and move on to the next woman? It goes further than that. Is he secure enough and sure enough with himself that if the worst happened, he could dust himself off and handle the guys who are going to get in his face and say snide and lewd things to him about her. One day, she's going to run this game down on the wrong guy and OP is going to have to fight him in order to keep her. Just messy messy messy...
mark clemson Posted April 21, 2019 Posted April 21, 2019 But was she supposed to drive home drunk? And I was not in town. And am I supposed to just tell my friends to go away? She hangs out with them the most now. Must have missed that you were out of town - my bad. Think other posters have sufficiently addressed any additional follow up on this.
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