laneyinlove Posted September 22, 2005 Posted September 22, 2005 Hey everyone, So I met this one guy on friendsters about a month ago and everyday we have been emailing each other back and forth, sometimes up to 5 times a day. Some of the e-mails are mundane like how our day went some are more intimate with talking about our dating lives even our defects . A lot of them are hilarious and sweet. He answers my e-mails fairly promptly even when he doesn't have much to say. We have since taken it to the next step and use IM now. Well I don't want to be too eager so I let him initiate. We have met up to see a movie and I liked him. It was a casual do you want to watch a movie thing and I said yes. After our first get together he said there were so many things he wanted to ask me but that we were getting rained on so it was an inopportune time. From what I know about this guy he has a wonderful lifestyle and has no problems meeting dating wonderful women. Well he hasn't asked me out on a formal date and so I was wondering if it's been a month and still no asking me out on a date does that mean he just wants to remain as friends and has no romantic intentions what so ever? I'm nervous because I really like him and now that we are on IM we can see when the other is on and it seems like our communication has died down because I don't want to be too eager and such and I'm wondering if he's trying to play it cool.My impulse is to IM him with every little thing I am thinking about but I try to limit it to one thing a day. he doesn't always IM right away even though I think he's online. A guy doesn't IM ,e-mail a girl that much unless he's super interested right? I do think my letters are very entertaining so maybe that's it. Any help would be much appreciated.Thanks!
questionsforyall Posted September 23, 2005 Posted September 23, 2005 Hey everyone, So I met this one guy on friendsters about a month ago and everyday we have been emailing each other back and forth, sometimes up to 5 times a day. Some of the e-mails are mundane like how our day went some are more intimate with talking about our dating lives even our defects . A lot of them are hilarious and sweet. He answers my e-mails fairly promptly even when he doesn't have much to say. We have since taken it to the next step and use IM now. Well I don't want to be too eager so I let him initiate. We have met up to see a movie and I liked him. It was a casual do you want to watch a movie thing and I said yes. After our first get together he said there were so many things he wanted to ask me but that we were getting rained on so it was an inopportune time. From what I know about this guy he has a wonderful lifestyle and has no problems meeting dating wonderful women. Well he hasn't asked me out on a formal date and so I was wondering if it's been a month and still no asking me out on a date does that mean he just wants to remain as friends and has no romantic intentions what so ever? I'm nervous because I really like him and now that we are on IM we can see when the other is on and it seems like our communication has died down because I don't want to be too eager and such and I'm wondering if he's trying to play it cool.My impulse is to IM him with every little thing I am thinking about but I try to limit it to one thing a day. he doesn't always IM right away even though I think he's online. A guy doesn't IM ,e-mail a girl that much unless he's super interested right? I do think my letters are very entertaining so maybe that's it. Any help would be much appreciated.Thanks! ill try to give some advice here, i am guilty of IM'n someone everyt little thing i am thinking about whether it be good or bad to someone, i can say its cool because if the person likes you theyll listen and appreciate you giving them the time of day. on the other hand doing what your doing doesnt really have any problems accept you might be cutting yourself short on your own needs. try something like going from one thing a day for a couple days then try to go for two. then see what happens. if hes all like WHOA NELLY you said 2 things to me today whats your problem then you got problems. but chances are he probably wont, he may start to think that you like him more. the whole part about him going online and not IM'n you right away is a tricky one this being the computer you never know really what the other person is doing , if anything... he could be in the bathroom, making some food, a whole wack of things could be going on , he could be writing an email to his mom or something you dont know and wont unless you ask "whatsup' or something like that. i woudnt get to worried about it. a lot of people have done that to me before and honestly i realized that they just didnt really care about me i guess , im not saying that thats whats happening in your case just my personal experience, the people that really liked me i guess started talking to me right away. or if you really want to show him how much you like him , show him this page on the internet , i gaurantee he will turn bright red then be like this girl likes me alot. maybe i should give her some more attention cause she kicks ass. only do that under extreme circumstances IE your heart is going to explode from loving this guy to much sounds like a lucky dude, best of luck to ya
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted September 25, 2005 Posted September 25, 2005 Ahh, this is a topic near and dear to my heart. I went through this a few months ago. Are you 100% positive he's single? (You'll see why I ask in a moment) Last summer I met this guy in my master's program, and I developed a crush. Each quarter we had at least one class together, and in the fall, we were doing a group project together so we exchanged email addresses and phone numbers. The calling thing never really caught on, but we did email occasionally throughout the months. By spring, the emailing had become what you explained- 5 times a night at least. He would send a message, and I would reply quickly, to which he'd reply again within 10 minutes or so, etc etc. We each knew to get online each night without ever having to say it; we came to expect the other's emails. The only problem: we were both in relationships but hadn't told each other. His was a long distance relationship and his girlfriend lived 1000 miles away, while my boyfriend was usually laying in front of the TV a couple feet from me. (That's why the calling thing never really happened). As I developed this crush and it continued to grow, it became evident that I needed to break it off with my boyfriend of 4 years. I broke up with him, and within two weeks or so, my email guy broke it off with his girlfriend too. This was in June, and we're still together The point of this story: hang in there if you really like him. You've only been emailing for a month. My man and I emailed for many months (though we did see each other in class once a week also) before our relationship began. Good luck!
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