rightondude Posted April 16, 2019 Posted April 16, 2019 A buddy of mine set up a double date with his girlfriend and a friend of hers. I saw her pictures and man she's a stunner! The date is this weekend and today he said he was going to get me her # so we could "text/talk" beforehand. Now the way I normally work when meeting women online is to text/talk just enough to setup the date and maybe 1-2 "how are you's?" (normally from them) before the actual date. Reason being is I have learned not to kill any of the mystery so that we actually have something to talk about on the dates. It has worked really well. So...guess my question is, what would be worth discussing beforehand prior to actually meeting in person this weekend? Definitely don't want to screw this up. Ladies, what would you want to hear before meeting a guy you've only heard about second hand?
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 16, 2019 Posted April 16, 2019 Since I have never been on a true "blind date," I would want to just save the mystery get the full experience of it. But, I suspect I'm not typical in that regard.
smackie9 Posted April 16, 2019 Posted April 16, 2019 a "blind date" means you go in blind This^^^ you do go in blind...well at least half blind because you already know what each other looks like. In the old days you had no clue what you were getting into. Relax and be confident. 1
Author rightondude Posted April 16, 2019 Author Posted April 16, 2019 I agree with all of the above, it sounds weird to me to talk beforehand. If anything I'd just say "hey, I've heard lots of good things and look forward to meeting you" and end it there.
alphamale Posted April 16, 2019 Posted April 16, 2019 I agree with all of the above, it sounds weird to me to talk beforehand. If anything I'd just say "hey, I've heard lots of good things and look forward to meeting you" and end it there. don't look a gift horse in the mouth rightondude
emeraldgreen Posted April 16, 2019 Posted April 16, 2019 a "blind date" means you go in blind And let's face it, why would anyone do it in this day and age unless one of them were hideous or desperate?
emeraldgreen Posted April 16, 2019 Posted April 16, 2019 Definitely don't want to screw this up. Don't go into this with approval-seeking mode switched on. You're not there to hope someone likes you. You're there to assess compatibility and attraction and then pursue what YOU want. 1
Author rightondude Posted April 16, 2019 Author Posted April 16, 2019 Not sure what you mean there alphamale....you're saying I shouldn't say anything if I am given her #? That would be kinda weak and beta to me. Also emeraldgreen, this will be a first for me, but I've seen her pics, she's seen mine. I'm definitely interested and she's at least giving it a shot. All I need's a shot!!!
Author rightondude Posted April 16, 2019 Author Posted April 16, 2019 Don't go into this with approval-seeking mode switched on. You're not there to hope someone likes you. You're there to assess compatibility and attraction and then pursue what YOU want. I get what you're saying. The date will go just fine and I know all that. I didn't want to screw up something pre-date or set myself up for awkwardness.
emeraldgreen Posted April 16, 2019 Posted April 16, 2019 I've seen her pics, she's seen mine. Not a blind date then.
alphamale Posted April 17, 2019 Posted April 17, 2019 Not sure what you mean there alphamale....you're saying I shouldn't say anything if I am given her #? That would be kinda weak and beta to me. Also emeraldgreen, this will be a first for me, but I've seen her pics, she's seen mine. I'm definitely interested and she's at least giving it a shot. All I need's a shot!!! it means you shouldn't talk to her before the blind date, that is all
Versacehottie Posted April 17, 2019 Posted April 17, 2019 IMO, you don't want to get too hyped on her because then it will possibly be a let down. Let yourself be pleasantly surprised. The thing with a setup/blind date is that assuming it was through friends you kinda have to follow through and go. So the less you go into detail with your mutual friends the less pressure it will be on the date or whatever the aftermath is (good or bad). No pressure is the best thing--whether it's for the success of more dates if you like her or the flexibility to get out of future dates if you aren't feeling it. Less is more. A couple of sentences, a paragraph or a few texts. Enthusiastic about whatever fun thing you have on the agenda. Save the getting to know what she is all about until the date. Good luck! 1
Author rightondude Posted April 18, 2019 Author Posted April 18, 2019 well sure enough we started texting and now we're asking questions. I wanted to keep it short and simple and "look forward to meeting you" but now we're talking about kids and the like. There's no good way to just cut it off once you dive down the rabbit's hole. I'm just going to be busy over the next couple of days and not respond back quickly. That'll hopefully bridge the gap until we actually meet and I wow her with my divorced old dad jeans wearing charm. 2
I'veseenbetterlol Posted April 18, 2019 Posted April 18, 2019 well sure enough we started texting and now we're asking questions. I wanted to keep it short and simple and "look forward to meeting you" but now we're talking about kids and the like. There's no good way to just cut it off once you dive down the rabbit's hole. I'm just going to be busy over the next couple of days and not respond back quickly. That'll hopefully bridge the gap until we actually meet and I wow her with my divorced old dad jeans wearing charm. There is nothing wrong w/what you are doing. There are no "rules" to how you date. I would continue texting as much as you have been, otherwise she will think you lost interest and may not be as open on the date. I guess I am not one for surprises in dating as I have gotten quite a few. Do what you feel is right.
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted April 18, 2019 Posted April 18, 2019 That'll hopefully bridge the gap until we actually meet and I wow her with my divorced old dad jeans wearing charm. :lmao: "Right on, dude!"
Love_learning Posted May 23, 2019 Posted May 23, 2019 My assumption is that you haven’t talked to her before and you don’t have her number. I have been asking hundreds of attractive random girls out for years. From my own experience, you will need to have a short conversation with her first. The first step is to gather enough courage to say Hi to the girl. You will feel anxious the moment you realize she is alone and you can talk to her. This feeling won’t go away. these really helping you to knowing about How to attract a guy? When opportunity presents, immediately say Hi to her. If you wonder around the girl for too long, she will think you are creepy.
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