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I signed on to this sight a year ago, when I first hit the “OH MY GOD I CANT DO HIS ANYMORE” with my MM & you all came to my rescue. Complete strangers telling me from just the mere words that I typed that I was better than what this man was putting me through. Sadly I did not heed the advice & have stumbled through yet another year & here I am again. I posted a couple of weeks ago & again you sympathized with my situation. As of yet I haven’t been able or haven’t felt like I should be spouting off advice to others when I am such a mess myself. Hopefully, SOON I will be able to return the favor!!!!

I read through the post & I see the hurt that these relationships have caused & the love that has been given that all seems to be in vain. We as the “OW” are not weak for this. We are NOT weak for the love that we feel. I know that as far as my situation goes I feel in love with a MM that was my boyfriend. He was not a father, not a husband, he was simply my boyfriend. He as I am sure many of your did allowed me to see the side of him that has dwindled away in his “day to day” life. We fell in love. HE made bad decisions, HE is the one that has the wife, the kids, the “norm.”

That in my opinion is where it gets all messed up…..

When the relationship starts your time together isn’t spent dwelling on what he or she has or doesn’t have

It is all about each other , from there it snowballs adding in the emotions, the thoughts, the feelings of love, happiness, hate, sadness ,joy each of those overwhelming & unexplainable feeling that sets each of aside making our story different.

The fact that 9 times out of 10 he has to return back to his “norm” doesn’t make those feelings not real. It doesn’t make the OW weak. That is what I read the most. That we are feeling weak & trust me at times I do too. I just don’t think that is a fair judgment to make, even if it is on ourselves.

 

Posted to say thank you!

I really appreciate all that you all have done…

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