TheBlingRing14 Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 If you have read my previous posts, you will know this seems to be an ongoing issue. You will also know that it seems to come and go in waves. The good times are great. Other than these particular incidents, there is nothing in conversation that strikes me as red flags. Anyway, it's been almost a year with this guy.....actually a year on Saturday. I am not sure if that's part of the issue; maybe he sees one year as sort of the limit. Maybe he sees it as get serious or cut bait. Anyway, we talked last Wednesday and Thursday, very normal. Conversations were fine, good...nothing out of the ordinary at all. Numerous references to the next time we are together or "in the future" or etc etc. So, I don't hear from him Friday, Saturday, Sunday, or Monday. Finally, Monday I message him, and he responds relatively quickly, nonplussed. I will admit I was icy with him. I think I was hoping my iciness would prod him into explaining (not even apologizing, just explaining) why he had been off the radar. Well, either he was clueless or didn't care, and when no explanation came, I went off. I kind of freaked out. I mean, I did it in a nice way. I just had a lot of textual diarrhea. After a while, he simply responds, "We'll talk tomorrow." So, I was prepared for a pretty serious conversation. And, we did talk. He did message me, and we talked. But...the freakout was never brought up. His distance was never brought up. It was a pretty standard conversation, actually. It was a bit tepid, but it wasn't cold. So, what I thought was going to be a Come to Jesus kind of talk wound up being a normalish day for us. I mean, if he had something serious to discuss, whether about us, or whether about him...that would have been the time to talk about it. Last night, I didn't hear anything from him, but I didn't message him either. I thought it was good to just have a breather to let the dust settle from the previous two nights. Which brings us to tonight. I shot him a simple "Hey" text message. I haven't heard anything yet. I'm trying not to worry. Maybe he is out with his friends. Maybe he went to bed early. Maybe he worked late. There are a lot of maybes, but combined with the way things have been going in the last few days...I can't help but let my mind go There. I just wish I knew what had changed between last week and this week. Was there something in the conversation that triggered him, if not immediately, maybe later on? If our recent conversations had been sort of meh and downhill, I could at least understand it. But, for there to be such a sharp turn...I just don't get it. And then, to talk on Tuesday and everything seems like business as usual...what's the point of doing that if things are on the way out?
basil67 Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 I had a look at your previous posts and it would appear that him going AWOL is not unusual. The last time you wrote about it was Feb 3 and there were a few incidences before that. Also in the Feb post, you wanted to know how not to be a doormat. I would say that by sticking around after he does this, you have indeed become a doormat. This behaviour should be completely unacceptable to you.
damni Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 History of poor behaviour yet you always stay. What do you expect us to say?
toomanyquestions123 Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 5 threads of the same person not hearing from him again ? yeah it MUST be the time to end things right now.
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