purplesoccer34 Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 (edited) I met a guy on a dating app some 3 years ago. At that time, he lived about a 3 hour drive from me, and I really only wanted to date people who lived locally to me, but something about him caught my eye and so I messaged him. He replied back, and we exchanged a few messages, but somewhere along the way, I decided I didn't want to date someone who lived so far away. And so when the conversation died, I didn't bother to keep it going. Several months later, he messaged me again on the app, but I didn't see that message until many months later. When I did, he responded, and we exchanged a few more messages. Eventually, we exchanged phone numbers and began to text somewhat regularly over the course of a month. The conversation died once or twice, but he'd initiate again, by asking how I'm doing. The convo eventually came to a stop when I sent the last message and he didn't reply. That was maybe 2 years ago. I got a message again from him several weeks ago - it was a surprise, but I liked hearing from him. Since then, we've been texting pretty regularly. We don't necessarily talk everyday - but at least a few times a week. Often times, the conversation will die, but he'll find a way to revive it by messaging me again a couple of days later. I found out that he no longer lives 3 hours away from me - he lives on the other side of the country, which makes me wonder if he's actually considering pursuing this more seriously. If he genuinely wanted to pursue this, I would strongly consider it despite the distance - mainly because our conversations have been lots of fun, and I find myself really wanting to talk to him. There's also the fact that I'm at a point in my life where I really want to relocate to a new city. I want to experience something different, and the city he lives in has much to offer. Of course, we've never spoken about me relocating or even meeting in person - our conversations have just been very superficial thus far. Is it possible he could be thinking of this as something more serious? Edited April 11, 2019 by purplesoccer34
preraph Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 He didn't come meet you when he was only 3 hours away, so can't imagine why you think he will now that he's on the other side of the country. Sounds to me like he's a little lonely and killing time like you do when you first move to a new location and don't know many people, if any at all.
basil67 Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 He sees you as a friend and is reaching out because he's lonely.
kendahke Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 Of course, we've never spoken about me relocating or even meeting in person - our conversations have just been very superficial thus far. Is it possible he could be thinking of this as something more serious? No... I'd say he was if he'd moved across town from you. Across country? No. Plus he vaporizes on the regular and then pops up with a "WYD?" Those crumbs are not the meal you're trying to make this out to be. If you want to move to a new city and it's one he happens to live in, then make sure you're moving for solid opportunities where you will not need him once you land and begin setting up house because from what you've written, he hasn't given you anything concrete to build on--it's all going on in your head right now. Don't project that onto him while ignoring what he's actually doing. There is someone he's involved with, despite what he's telling you. Either that or he truly is. not. interested. 1
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