andyydao Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 Hi everyone! I've been doing long distance on and off with my girlfriend for about 1 year now and I have 1 consistent problem every-time. Taking photos throughout the day for my girlfriend is a huge inconvenience and eventually I just stop taking photos completely. Let me explain. The whole process of taking a photo would look something like this: See something cool -> take my phone out -> open snapchat -> take a picture -> write some stuff -> choose who to send picture too -> send This whole process takes about 15 seconds, and I take around 5-7 photos everyday. There's a lot of friction and inconvenience in this process and no matter how hard I try I eventually stop taking photos for my girlfriend. This becomes even worse in social situations e.g. out with friends or colleagues for lunch, it's super unsocial to just take my phone out and take a picture. My girlfriend is getting upset with me on this and we've had a couple of fights on this, so any help would be greatly appreciated!! Question: I find snapchat adds a lot of friction and unnecessary steps when I'm just using it to take photos for my girlfriend e.g. choosing which friend to send the photo too (I always send the photo to my girlfriend anyway). Are there any photo taking apps similarly to snapchat but solely aimed at long distance couples? Do you guys also have the same problem? If so, how are you overcoming it? Any help would from the LDR community would be awesome!!! Thanks for reading
basil67 Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 (edited) Hi Andy, I'm wondering why you need to send all these photos to her in the first place. While it's great to stay in contact, it sounds quite excessive and certainly time consuming. Your girlfriend's expectations of all these photos are unrealistic. And I agree that taking photos of who you're out with each and every time is ridiculous. Rather than fight about it, just tell her No. If she tries to fight over it, tell her that her expectations are unrealistic and you're not going to do it. It may well cause the end of the relationship....but if she can't have a relationship without half a dozen photos each day, then she's probably too much hard work anyway. Edited April 11, 2019 by basil67
grays Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 I think photos everyday sounds crazy and multiple photos everyday is WOW! If you want to do it, great. What’s wrong with just texting them to her? If you don’t want to do more than seven on a particular day and that makes her freak out on you, she might be kinda high maintenance. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 Why do you need to send so many photos everyday? Of what? That sounds awfully tedious. It seems silly and a measure of her insecurity that she needs to see what you are doing when apart. How old is she? How much time do you spend together in person? Rather than finding an alternative to Snapchat, why not address the real problems here? You're enabling her demanding behaviour otherwise. 1
GoreSP Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 /%?&/%?& snapchat. It caused problems with my ex too. Well, it looks like it is important to her, so you need to consider this, but she needs to consider you don't like doing it all the time so...have a conversation about this and find a middle ground? Like you can take pictures throughout the days and send them before bed? I believe snapchat lets you send pictures from your phones and you can even write little notes on them...
GoreSP Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 Why do you need to send so many photos everyday? Of what? That sounds awfully tedious. I know! right? But for some people, streaks and best friends are suuuuper important...
kendahke Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 IMO, unless you're using social media as your business promotions/marketing platform, there is no reason to incessantly take pictures and post all day long--you can send a text with a picture--unless you're with someone who is so incapable of self soothing until they see you that they're basically hobbled by insecurity. If that's the case, you need to rethink the wisdom in being with someone of such high maintenance.
emeraldgreen Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 Snapchat kills relationships. Just interact as humans do.
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