Lizzie2003 Posted April 10, 2019 Posted April 10, 2019 Basically: I'm a girl, I've only ever been with boys (one boy, to be exact), and I consider myself to be straight. But I started university in September, and I'm surprised to find that I've met another girl whom I really like! We've been getting to know one another in the same lectures for a few months now, and while I'm sure she likes me as a friend, for some reason I've realised that I wish we were so much more. I'd really like to ask her out on a date, but I haven't got a clue how I'd go about it. For one thing I don't know for sure whether she'd even be open to being with another girl - I know she's slept with a couple of boys since coming to uni so I know she's not gay. But if I ask her out, she might just think we're going out as two female friends. So I know I'd have to be crystal clear as to what my intentions are, but then I'm really worried about freaking her out. So I really don't know what to do. I never expected to feel this way about a girl - I've never even so much as kissed another girl before - but she's just so beautiful and cool and I'm completely at a loss how to go about this. Any suggestions are very gratefully received.
damni Posted April 10, 2019 Posted April 10, 2019 I would ask to hang as friends and see if you get a vibe from her at all. Considering the girl has only been with men since being at university, you could be setting yourself up for failure. Test the waters first.
Author Lizzie2003 Posted April 11, 2019 Author Posted April 11, 2019 Thank you for the advice. I get what you're saying and you're absolutely right. I've asked her today if she'd like to go for a coffee with me after class next week and she's accepted. I'm really nervous and admittedly I don't think my chances are great, but I'll just take it one step at a time. It's been driving me mad - I never expected to feel this way about a woman, and I don't understand why I'm so attracted to her when I'm not attracted to women in general - but I'll just have to see how it goes and hope for the best
preraph Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 You already know she's straight, so don't ask her on a date.
alphamale Posted April 11, 2019 Posted April 11, 2019 you have to know how to "flip" her to your side. maybe a fellow lesbian can show you the intricacies of asking a girl out
Hopeful30 Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 (edited) Thank you for the advice. I get what you're saying and you're absolutely right. I've asked her today if she'd like to go for a coffee with me after class next week and she's accepted. I'm really nervous and admittedly I don't think my chances are great, but I'll just take it one step at a time. It's been driving me mad - I never expected to feel this way about a woman, and I don't understand why I'm so attracted to her when I'm not attracted to women in general - but I'll just have to see how it goes and hope for the best You could try to subtly bring up the subject during your conversations to gauge where she is. OR, you can make a joke, like "screw guys! let's be a couple ourselves!" Depending on her reaction, you might get a better idea. OR, you could ask how she feels about gay marriage -- tell her you read something in the newspaper and were curious about her opinion. OR, you can make up a story. Tell her you once knew a guy whose GF cheated on him with another woman, but you don't see it as cheating. You can literally make up anything to get the conversation going, and see where she's at. And don't be so hard on yourself. Sexuality is fluid, it's not fixed. Explore! You're young, and there is nothing wrong with experimenting and learning about yourself and your sexuality. You must honour yourself and how you feel. Edited April 12, 2019 by Hopeful30
fred123 Posted April 12, 2019 Posted April 12, 2019 do.you just want to f*** her? would u? what do u want from her?
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