Too much of a risk?

[longshot3009]

Am I taking too much of a risk considering living with my boyfriend who:

 

is close to retirement age

has about $15,000 in bank but no other assets

has a job and is able to make his monthly bills

but he has to charge any amounts for vacations and pay it over time

doesn't want to ask for a raise as I suggested and said he'd do it when he was comfortable doing so (they pay him a very modest salary considering his job and one of his best friends is the owner)

he is weak in terms of any financial or budgeting (and he admits to the same)

 

if:

 

I'm almost retirement age

I'll have to pick up about 75% of the household expenses

I'll have to pay for about 75% of vacations unless he charges his share

I'm very comfortable financially and have enough in the bank for good retirement

 

and:

 

we love each other and have been together for many years

[Mrs._December]

Am I taking too much of a risk considering living with my boyfriend who:

 

is close to retirement age

has about $15,000 in bank but no other assets

has a job and is able to make his monthly bills

but he has to charge any amounts for vacations and pay it over time

doesn't want to ask for a raise as I suggested and said he'd do it when he was comfortable doing so (they pay him a very modest salary considering his job and one of his best friends is the owner)

he is weak in terms of any financial or budgeting (and he admits to the same)

 

if:

 

I'm almost retirement age

I'll have to pick up about 75% of the household expenses

I'll have to pay for about 75% of vacations unless he charges his share

I'm very comfortable financially and have enough in the bank for good retirement

 

and:

 

we love each other and have been together for many years

Are you the poster whose daughter can't stand this guy because he takes advantage of you financially, is pushing to move in with you because he sees you as Easy Street, and has a criminal record/jail time for embezzling from his prior company 15 or so years ago?

 

So you'd have to support him currently AND since he has no 401k or retirement fund you'd have to supplement his retirement on top of it?? Oh hell no.

Edited April 8, 2019 by Mrs._December

[chillii]

Think this ones been around about 10 times now.

Your obviously still struggling with it all.

lf it was a man and you were in his shoes but it is truly love then he probably wouldn't care less and he'd probably be expected to help out, it's only money can't take it with ya, l'd take love any day.

But like l said the first time, if you'd rather grow old cuddling your money instead then l hope your very happy together, go for it.

Edited April 8, 2019 by chillii