User15 Posted April 8, 2019 Posted April 8, 2019 (edited) Hello everyone. This is more of a post for me to vent my feelings about this situation I find myself in and perhaps to see what your opinions are. I'm in my mid 20's, a college student, and 6 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of two years whom I loved dearly. We had been forced to date long-distance for about a year and a half - separated by continents - and we found ourselves in a position where if we didn't truly commit to each other it would never work. It turned out that she wasn't ready and so we went our separate ways. I was heartbroken for months, and it was only until recently that I've felt somewhat normal and perhaps ready to tip my toe into the dating pool again however I am preparing to join the military after I graduate college and could be leaving within the next 6-9 months so I decided against dating. This situation was fine with me until about 2 months ago I met a young woman who has made me feel similarly to the last girl I dated. I've also seen her look at me the same (loving) way that my ex-girlfriend did. She's smart, beautiful, sexy, funny, and we have many similar interests. We've ended up spending a lot of time together. I can't help but feel strongly for her, however I've been forced to keep my feelings to myself and not pursue anything further due to the fact that we will both be graduating soon - her going her way and me going into the military - which has been a somewhat difficult issue for me. I can't deny that my heart aches for her and I long for romance and companionship again, but I feel like I'm doing the right thing for both her and for myself. I'm not the kind of guy to just seek out short flings, and I respect her too much to want to risk hurting her by leaving soon. I did the long distance thing once already and it ended in terrible pain, and a life in the military would just make that even harder. I think it's best not to start a relationship with her (or anyone else) now in order to save both her and I some pain and maintain this strong - if platonic - relationship that I've developed. Perhaps it will develop into something later on; perhaps not. Anyway, I appreciate having this space to vent and perhaps have someone read my story. Edited April 8, 2019 by User15
d0nnivain Posted April 8, 2019 Posted April 8, 2019 We regret more in life the things we did not do. You are dooming this to failure because you won't even try. If you started dating now you could have a lot of fun together before graduation & your enlistment. If you don't give it a shot you could regret it forever. Maybe this is one of those things that is only supposed to be for a short time. There is nothing wrong with that. You don't have to marry or consider marrying every person you date, kiss, or even have sex with.
GTR King Posted April 8, 2019 Posted April 8, 2019 Best to give it a shot who knows what will happen but do tell her your joining the military after you graduate so she knows You might regret not dating this girl...
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